I'm a woman, so I can only guess...but I am told it's all about body language. It may not be about hair twirling and batting of eyelashes and shit...it strikes me as more of a posture mimicking, stature mimicking. That sort of thing. After that?

I am pretty direct. I say, 'Hey, you rock and we should go out on a date or something.' If a guy doesn't take that as bait, I gotta cut him loose.

L~

Wish I could be as bold as you Lstecker but I'm afraid of rejection just like some men are. By the way everyone I accidently duplicated this post this morning. It wasn't showing yesterday so I reposted. My appologies.

It's alright, Lauren. I just figure getting turned down can't be as bad as that divorce - made it thru that, I can handle a little rejection, and stay standing!

L~

I'm in my 50's and I still aint got a clue.

I guess when she will sit through a whole ball game with me and even ask me if I would like another beer AND not talk about perfume, makeup, or jewelry the whole time. And when I belch she tells me how good the timbre was.

An excellent question. There is, of course, no single correct answer. The last time I went on a date and wondered if a woman was interested in me was 24 years ago. That woman is now my wife, and I am working hard and spending many sleepless nights trying to keep it that way (otherwise I wouldn't be here.)

Thinking back (way back!) it seems that if I was interested in a particular woman, then I habitually read every sign through the lens that made me think she wasn't interested in me. And what are those signs? Well, everything: how long we talked on the phone; if we took a slight detour somewhere just to keep the conversation going; if we liked the same things, or disliked the same things, and how much we talked about that. I pretty much turned everything into a sign.

One thing I remember that made me think perhaps my future wife was really interested in me was when she invited me over for a nice, home cooked meal. It wasn't long after that evening that, well, we didn't need to look for signs anymore.

heck of a question...kinda loaded hahaha.... I'm divorced for 11 years... after investing 25 years in a marriage.. that failed.. due to as she put it..." you fat... you ugly... I'm tired of puttin up with your disabilities!"
Seemed a lot of women I met during those 25 years ... were interested in either what they cant' have... or to prove that all men cheat... they failed both counts...
I'd have to say certain smile... that sparkle in the eyes...and those the just in your face tell you... hahaha... seems these day ladies I meet are lookin at my wallet while I'm singin.. Beatle music.. " tell me that ya want the finer things that money just can't by..., ... I don't care to much for money.. money wont buy me Love.."
oops wander off there sorry