I love your Aunts saying!! I'm so happy things are turning out well for you Lauren and its so good to hear from you...Big Hugs...Kathy

Hope things are going well for you to Kathy. I know you've been through the mill yourself.

What a inspiring story!

Im with your aunt, this hallway im in is quite a bitch!

Yep, it is the hallways that you have to worry about but if we do not travel that road, we would never know what we are capable of doing and achieving. I travelled that hallway and now I am a happy woman, free and at peace with God and the world.

I dont think ive reached the hallway yet, sounds really scary, Im just leaving day by day and moment by moment right now. my emotion going from one extreme to another..is the hallway after the divorce or before?..lol I cant believe my life has turned out ths way, but once again i would like to that u all for u advice and support.... this is much better than my divorce support group anyday...lol Happne

Hi Lauren! I am so glad that life is better and your move was great. I don't like to say that I love being divorced to those who are on that first part of divorce, but it is true! I also love my life.

It does seem in the begining that maybe others can say that, but it will never be me. But it can be you. It is nice to hear from old friends that have gone on..and are doing well! BIG HUG Lauren!

I use the metaphor that life is a highway.. you drive the car for the most part looking forward, and not so much looking in the rear view mirror. You take detours, you hit the shoulder once in a while and almost go off the road, you might have a tiny crash. You get a bit lost and find your way again. You might pick up new passengers, and maybe leave a few friends behind..you have a few new pieces of luggage in the trunk and got rid of a few old suitcases. In the end you keep going forward with hope and forward to a new destination, and when you check the makeup mirror, there is you, a happy wonderful you, heading into the world, living the best life ever.. forward!

Lauren - welcome back to California! I totally get it - I'm free at last!

It’s always nice to hear about someone whom has been through …”The Hallway” and on to a new life.
I’m in the hallway and toward the end. I just have to close that door behind me. I now like my freedom.
I like to go where I want and when I want. I still have the house (And may continue too, being what state the economy is in) I took down all the pictures that she bought over the years….. The ones she liked and never asked me about. I’m now looking for pictures that I like… Many things like that in general . So, while I cried for a long time….. While I did love my wife in my own special way.. While I do miss her at times… I am doing things that I like now…. I don’t think that I want to go back to the way it was ..now. YES !… There’s a big difference in a year. I my case almost two years. (Everyone ones
” Hallway” is different.
So, today I “too” would like to say to all the new people here… First of all, I’m sorry that you have to be here in the first place,,, “ God be with you ! “ , but you are at the best place possible and amongst many friends that care and mostly understand your hurt…… your pain. God Bless all of you God give you the strength to endure ………….. The Hallway “Have you.
The best Sunday possible to everyone ….

BTW. We all didn’t expect our lives to change the way that they have.
(God has a plan !)

Timeman

Oh...to go back to California when my life was bliss....but I do need to go forward and I too am still in those hallways. How many more do I have to go through? Time...time....time....time

I agree that hallways LOOK scary, but once we have walked down the hallway, and we look back, we often realize that it was hard work getting to the end of the hallway, but we made it.
I believe that it's the unknown that makes these hallways so scary.
That's why this group is so important.
There are people here who have gone down similar hallways.
They can help us navigate our hallways.
((hugs))

The old , 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...' saying comes to mind. At first it feels like it IS going to kill you, then you may find yourself fighting against the 'but I don't want to be stronger' mindset... I know I did! But, as long as we all keep taking one step at a time forward, we make it through the dark scary parts, and finally step into a nice, broad, bright place. We laugh again, we love again. It's a place of acceptance, and liking ourselves and knowing that we really are strong enough! That's not to say there won't be other challenges on life's journey, other dark hallways to navigate, but the strength we've gained from this experience can never be taken away! I am so encouraged daily by all of you! :)