I am sorry.. and look at it this way, you were able to see many of his events, see it half full, rather than what you missed, the empty side. Concentrate on making plans when you will see him. We all need something to look forward to! I know you have had some emotional times lately with your dad and all, and if you think you are doing well, it can just hit you with a parents passing. BIG HUGS to you!

I was going to suggest that someone use their phone and record it live.. it is amazing what good video you get from a phone today or a good camera.. and then send it to you on the internet. Not the same, but good!

If all else fails, feel sorry for yourself, work it out that way. One of the big things about being divorced, no one to tell you how you should be feeling or acting... HUGS

I'm sorry that you're having a bad day. That rollercoaster of emotions can hit a down note at any time. When that happens to me, no amount of logic or reason seems to help, but posting my feelings to this group always helps, so you took the best possible action you could take under the circumstances.
I hope that seeing Ryan's performance on Facebook will help you feel better tonight.
((hugs))

Di, I totally understand. I missed my son't performance recently and am so disappointed, my heart just aches.

I think you may be aware that I was to watch my son perform with Natalie Cole 2 weeks ago? Well, it flooded in my area at that time. The day and night before his performance, 4 roads out of my home town were cut off and more rain was forecast for the following days. It was a hard choice to make, but I am also on call to mind my grandchildren if my daughter goes into labour any day soon. I sat with the decision, looked up the weather and road alerts a million times, rang people to discuss it, and eventually decided I couldn't afford to be stuck in the city or worse, stuck on the way home by the roadside somewhere. I had to make the decision not to go. It was just plain awful. Then it didn't rain!!!!!

We make the best decisions we can at the time, Di. YOur son's work is important and it did snow. What else could you do? I think I made a well-considered decision and my son is very understanding. He had to make a similar choice a couple of years ago.

You're so lucky you'll still get to see your son's performance.

love and hugs
kamary

You are with him in spirit!

Oh I'm so sorry Kamary. What a hard decision to make. Actually, it isn't the snow that kept me from getting to him. He is 1900 miles away and I couldn't afford to go see him for this performance. I will see him in a few weeks starring in a play. It does feel good to share this stuff because it seems that everyone has a common experience. Once i get through today, I will get to see more of his performances than most mom's get to because he will be going to college here. Yay!!! There is just today and I will get through it.

My children are not performers but i still miss everything because of the distance, my son lives and works in Switzerland and my daughter in the Air Force and i miss everything..
I wanted so badly to see my daughter at Christmas but alas in the end i could not afford it :(

It is not easy is it.
((hugssss))

I am sorry you missed him today. I like to be at all my childrens events too. Your boys are lucky to have a mom like you.

It is good news that you will be able to see him perform next year but if you have to be sad about today for a little while that is OK.

Oh man that fully sucks!! Sorry to hear you couldn't make it to your sons performance....how proud you must be of your son wow, that is so cool having a son that performs...Kamary too, how cool your so is performing at that level (Wooo Natalie Cole geez how awesome is that!!!) Wow as mum's you guys have everything to be proud of especially knowing that you had a huuge influence in these young men's lives - to me their success if a wonderful testament of your love and support and the hand of God hehe....

Big huggles to you drtexdi, I so feel for you right now but take comfort in knowing your boy knows how you feel not being there but he will sense your love all around him :)

BTW, Excellian has a son who is a great performer also. And Sarahleah. Wow, we all have that it common. Of course, It is 12:45 AM and I have waited all evening for the video. Well of course the Ex "took control" of the videoing and posted one video of the whole choir and nothing of the octet where my son had a solo and organized and directed it. Seriously?!?! Ryan is exhausted and he went to bed. My BIL texted me and said that the Ex had "taken control" of the videoing. Of course. Well this is the last time he will get in my way of seeing my son. I'll see it soon enough.

Blow, Di. I can't believe they let your ex have the camera! Yay. A solo yet!! Wow that's fantastic. He must have a beautiful voice, and talent in organisation and direction too! How lucky you are to be having your son in your area soon.

I sympathise with all of you whose children are too far away to visit often. I miss my son (3hrs drive) and my not-totally-estranged daughter (2hrs flight after a 3hr drive).

Yes we do seem to have a small group with talented children who work in the arts and music industries. Who would have thought? That's amazing!

After seeing YouTube videos of Excelliian's son (wow, what great performance) and hearing about your son kamary, we should get together (online since we are all on different continents) and have a concert. I would love to hear others' children. Sarahleah, I would love to see you son also. Now all of your sons are way beyond mine (who is only finishing high school) but at the least we could share links through messages since we are all in drastically different time zones. If you guys wouldn't mind sending me links, I could put them all together and send them out. What do you think?

So sorry you didn't get to see your son's performance. And boo on Ex for taking over the video.

Hugs!

Drtexdi , I think it's a great idea, although my son is behind the scenes these days, as an assistant director and sound designer. When he was in college ( he graduated last June) he also had a band, and I used to love to watch them perform in the local clubs.

My son is an out of work actor. He has another job, of course, but his real love is the theater. WV is not a good place to be an actor, but he also loves his small town. It seems like the TWO performances of his that I missed were, of course, the BEST performances he gave this year. I missed one foolishly pouting over something and the other one while I was in Florida for the summer.

Pam