Through Gods grace we got to spend Christmas Eve together as a "blended family" and I made peace with his gf.
Then he had a stroke Christmas morning and passed away today. My poor stepdaughter has been in ICU every day and my heart hurts for her and all of my children.
My stepdaughter asked me if he had a DNR and I was able to contact a lawyer who said he was going to meet with him this week to draw up a power of attorney.
Now the fiancée, yes they were getting married this week, is feeling left out and got in it with my stepdaughter right after he died in the hospital room about his viewing and where it would be. And told my stepdaughter she is the beneficiary on his life insurance and retirement benefit.
My daughter diffused it and my Xs son, daughter and fiancée are meeting tomorrow at the funeral parlor where the fiancée will pick out the coffin and have the final say with the kids approval.
I am staying in the background and will attend the viewing/funeral and will sit where they want me to be seated.
Even after his death the fiancée is only thinking about herself. I guess she wants what she feels is owed her for being left with their son. She is the beneficiary on his life insurance and retirement fund. So sad that our kids are left out in the end. But I guess that's the way he wanted it maybe out of guilt, who knows.
I hope he found happiness with her but all she got was illness and hospital days for most of the time they were (almost 3 years)together.
As for me, he will always be in my heart, he was in my life since I was 27 until I was 63. I think I would have been more upset if they had gotten married. For me, it's easier this way. I guess that is selfish on my part because my family lost their father and grandfather.
So, this is how the New Year begins....
I took an unfortunate fall When the paramedics arrived, they had to break in the back door. Sounded like a bomb going off. All three cats ran out in panic. I then spent 3 weeks in the hospital. A friend put out food both in and outside, but no inside food or water was touched. When I arrived home, Rust was in the backyard, but would back off as he neared the door for several hours. ...