Through Gods grace we got to spend Christmas Eve together as a "blended family" and I made peace with his gf.
Then he had a stroke Christmas morning and passed away today. My poor stepdaughter has been in ICU every day and my heart hurts for her and all of my children.
My stepdaughter asked me if he had a DNR and I was able to contact a lawyer who said he was going to meet with him this week to draw up a power of attorney.
Now the fiancée, yes they were getting married this week, is feeling left out and got in it with my stepdaughter right after he died in the hospital room about his viewing and where it would be. And told my stepdaughter she is the beneficiary on his life insurance and retirement benefit.
My daughter diffused it and my Xs son, daughter and fiancée are meeting tomorrow at the funeral parlor where the fiancée will pick out the coffin and have the final say with the kids approval.
I am staying in the background and will attend the viewing/funeral and will sit where they want me to be seated.
Even after his death the fiancée is only thinking about herself. I guess she wants what she feels is owed her for being left with their son. She is the beneficiary on his life insurance and retirement fund. So sad that our kids are left out in the end. But I guess that's the way he wanted it maybe out of guilt, who knows.
I hope he found happiness with her but all she got was illness and hospital days for most of the time they were (almost 3 years)together.
As for me, he will always be in my heart, he was in my life since I was 27 until I was 63. I think I would have been more upset if they had gotten married. For me, it's easier this way. I guess that is selfish on my part because my family lost their father and grandfather.
So, this is how the New Year begins....
I was married for over 3 decades to an alcoholic before i left. He replaced me within 2 mos and is still w her. It was very very difficult for me. I lost weight, played the pick me dance, cyberstalked the new woman. He was encouraging at this time as well. He talked poorly about the woman and even came to see me a couple of times-i moved 4 hours away after i left. This went on for about 7 months...