Well.. the stbx was served over the weekend. Now I guess I get to play the waiting game. He has 20 days to respond. I think it's calendar days, so I should hear something by the end of the month. It's hard to predict what he will do. I keep running all these different scenerios around in my head. I'm a planner... organizer... I make lists, I work real hard at being prepared and I am somewhat methodical in my habits, so this suspense is tough to deal with. Maybe I should make a goal to try to let go, be more spontaneous.... maybe that will be part of the new "me". Actually, it was part of the "pre-marriage" me and I think all the "organizing" was something that came with the marriage license. Somebody had to do it, so I guess it just became my job. I think all I can do now is just try to keep my mind occupied and hope we can come to an agreement. I would think that the main issue is going to be the house - but he seems to have different priorities than what most people would think is logical so there's no telling what he's going to come back with. Here's an example for you... if we were getting ready for company - he thought it was more important to straighten the attic than clean the bathrooms....huh??? (honest, this really happened) Here we go!!!!