I'm still in house with my stbx, she is going out to party with her boyfriend (our kids still don't know she has one), our daughter is at friend's sleepover and our son has 4 friends over, so it is me and 5 14 year old boys.
so i'm alone in a crowd
New year's eve , good riddance to 2013, I expect more heartacheing blows to come but after taking what i've taken, i can take plenty more

anyway.... at first I was to be alone tonite, I was going to netflix it for a bit, find odd movie, read, stay away fronm looking back and looking ahead, I've given up trying to understand stbx, I'm at the point where...I understand that it was not me, I wasn't a big turd, I wasn't an a-hole, should i continue to grow as a person---yes, do i need to be a differnt person --- no,

when I actually get some alone time, i'm going to write down all the things that validate me, all in all i am okay with being alone with myself, as for the memeories and what ifs I'm letting the memorires go and I'm done asking what if, gonna take time to heal and then get back to living and asking a really good question,
what's next,
take care & Happy new year, & really a lot of better tommorrows

This is my 3rd New Year's Eve alone. I'm ordering 3 movies on TV, all comedies, nothing romantic...my treat to me. That will get me to 11pm. Then it's bedtime...no watching the ball come down in Times Square...no dwelling on previous New Year's Eve plans that included the ex. Treat this as just another evening in your life, and remember that I'm sending hugs to you and anyone else on DS who is alone tonight.

I'm alone and that's okay. We never celebrated New Years. The only time I celebrated was when I worked on this one farm and the boss had a party and we all sat around a bonfire and she would get annoyed that I didn't drink. I'm going to enjoy the quiet and solitude of this farm and maybe read or watch TV. I will be in bed before midnight so I can feed horses in the morning.

The first round of all the holidays is always the hardest, I am sorry you are going through this :(

With the passing of time maybe you will learn to love the times you get to be alone :) I do !

I'm alone tonight as well but we never really celebrated New Year's anyway. Well, we did when I was younger since my Dad's birthday is January 1st. I'm having a glass of red wine and some chocolate while working on some graphic design skills. Will be in bed way before midnight as I have to be up at five to give my mare her first dose of medicine for the day to treat a laminitis flare up. It's my second year without my ex and I barely think of him. Too much else has happened.
I'm sorry you are feeling so lonely Golden. It will get better in time. Hugs and blessings for the New Year.

I'm alone too but sure beats my ex BS so I am good. Relax and enjoy the stress free night

The first New Years alone is difficult, but with each passing year it will get easier. This is my fifth New Years alone and I had a enjoyable day and evening. Just watched movies, chatted online, etc.

Sending healing hugs!!

I was more lonely when I was with that ex, than now. I learned to appreciate my own company. I am alone but not lonely.

We stopped 'doing' NYE when we had our youngest child. Guess we got old about then. We both had trouble feeling hungover if we had a late night, even if we didn't drink. LOL.

Since the divorce, I've spent every NYE alone for 5 years. I usually treat it as a normal day but will turn on the tele and catch some of the entertainment and maybe some early fireworks. This year , I visited an elderly friend in a home, did some last-minute grocery shopping, and I actually made it to midnight!!!! It was a bit of an anti-climax and next year, I'll probably go back to going to bed when I get tired:)

I get together with my kids or my family on NY Day, and this year I only had my second daughter and her family, but with 3 little boys, there wasn't a dull moment!!

I'm glad you'll have some 14yo boys to keep you company. I remember when my son was in his teens, some of his friends were pretty good cooks and I enjoyed some yummy brekkies the morning after their sleepovers. Maybe you were fortunate enough to find you had a gourmet brekky today?

Happy New Year. I hope you have a peaceful one full of good things.

love and hugs
kamary

Sorry, I meant that last re teens to go to Broken.

My first New Years Eve alone was spent watching the clock approach midnight while I sat alone in an airport waiting for a shuttle to take me home to an empty house. Talk about feeling isolated and lonely. I had just returned from visiting my daughter in sunny California and was returning to a very cold, snowy New England. Ugh! I can still remember sitting there watching the few people in the airport whooping it up at midnight. I felt so totally sad and alone. When I got home, I went straight to bed, and probably cried. Fortunately, since then, my New Years Eve's have been much better. I'm content to stay home, but I have been lucky to have friends to spend the evening with. Next year will be better for you. Remember, it's just one night. Make a plan to do something with a friend.

It's only a day. Try not to make it more than what it is. I used to celebrate NYE, but that was a long time ago. When I was married, we started just staying home. It was amature night, and it's dangerous to be out - so we would stay in. Rarely did we see the ball drop.

Last night was no different, except my daughter had her boyfriend over and I went up to my room, so I wouldn't be just hanging around on them. Watched a movie and fell asleep.

I'm ok with that - and you will be too. Happy New Year - you will be OK. It just takes time.

I'm with KRKing911 in that for the last 20 years, I have always considered New Year's Eve to be Amateur Night. X and I hosted many parties at the farm when we were together and NYE was no different -- EXCEPT that everyone was to come with a Designated Driver or plan to spend the night. We often woke to a houseful of people on January 1st.

Granted, the first set of holidays post-breakup are tough -- but it's only ONE DAY. My first Christmas alone (2005) was pretty awful. I remember going to 11:00 p.m. church and crying my eyes out. The next year was sooo different -- I was by myself, but so very PEACEFUL I will always remember it as one of my favorite years.

This year, I am single again (following a 5-1/2 year post-divorce relationship) and living 1,100 miles from the place I called home for most of my life. Sunny and 80 degrees sure makes up for the lack of family and old friends at the holidays, I must admit.

One day at a time. One holiday at a time. This all gets better with time, but there is no set "schedule" for forward progress. BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF! That's the best advice I can give. xoxo