OMG, me too! I didn't realize it until this post. Yep, Chrissy, we've been through so much. Boy, there were many times it didn't seem possible to get through it all. I know that I would not have gotten through the bulk of it without you and so many others here. Thanks for always being the inspiration that you've been. Your one strong cookie. I wish you all the happiness and peace you deserve. It's comin' - that's for sure - ten fold. Big warm hugs.

Wow - me too - he moved out between Mother's day and Father's day - wow - look how far we have all come! Thanks for being there every step of the way - each and every one of you!

My friends, NOW you can begin to create NEW traditions and catalog NEWER, HAPPIER memories of special days and holidays in your NEW LIVES which are just beginning to emerge. Trust me, the old life will pale in comparison to the NEW LIFE you can have!

Chrissy, Same here! I never realized that I had experienced all of the special days without him too! I have been separated since Nov 2007 and never thought about it! I survived! Many thanks to everyone who have helped me along this new path. What a special supportive group we have. Hugs for everyone!

Several in this group Chrissy . Mine is around but mine left on May 25, Sunday before Memerial day last year then came back for a few days till his place was ready which was on our 25th anniversary. Guess who packed his stuff and helped him move the furniture?
Close to a year. I know How much I have grown in my separation and that is all credit to this group and the wonderful members here. Love you each and every one!

My year was Valentine's Day. Making of new traditions is always a fresh way to breathe new life into your heart and soul. Even though I think of the old traditions, it's the new ones that now make me giddy and smiling like a teenager.

Chrissy, it's been a little over a year for me and this made me think also, NO MORE FIRSTS. You are so right, if we can make it through the last year, we can make it in our new lives. I love you all for the support you have given me. I wouldn't be where I am today.

Sheryl

Thank goodness the firsts are over. They certainly had a way of knocking us around a bit.

Perhaps that's why I am at a bit of a weird place right now. First holidays, birthdays, etc. - done. First date - done. First major purchase - done. First vacation - done. Its really not about "getting over" him anymore. Weird. all in good time, I suppose.

Thanks hun! Great thread!!!! You are awesome!!!

That first year is DEFINITELY the toughtest! What I like about this group is we can see where we've come or where we're going from different posts and thoughts. Thanks Chrissy, for this. Reminds me that I have completed my 2nd year now and it's SO MUCH EASIER!

Big hugs everyone!

Just think, after awhile you will not even think of this stuff at all anymore.. really.. The other day a man and I were talking about our divorce and he said what was your filing date ( divorce) and I said in August..uh.. 2007 and it was either x or y. TO think at the time I thought this was one of the worst days of my life and now I would have to look and see what day it was..

AND when you truly move on, are divorced and living your life, a new life emerges, one with a new timeline, new beginnings, new anniversaries. Divorce can be that, a new start, not just a bad ending.

Chrissy, my wish for you is for you to be where I am, a year from now, for I was divorced in April of 2008 and you will be amazed, a year is a good time frame, and although that time you were getting divorced but yet legal, is also a passage, being divorced, all legal and final will really set the anger and past free.. Luv to you, Big Hug

Dear Chrissy, Yes, The Milestones--can be challenging and, too, an index of our progress, our Growth and Healing. Glad you've made a full Circle now--looking forward. I just passed my one-year divorce day, Cinco de Mayo! Like my former anniversary, I just said to myself these are not Holidays, they're not relevant to my Life now.

I saw your post title about Father's day. For what it's worth, I did'nt wish my x a happy mother's day, but I did decide to email my Girls a reminder, tho they probably didnt need it. You are doing great and are a blessing to our Group. Thanks for all your care, support and Sage advice over the Year. Hugs to YOu.

I never thought I could live alone, but I have done it for a year. I didn't realize that it has been a year until I read this post.
I'm not divorced yet, so I still feel like I'm in limbo, but I know I can take care of myself.
I do hope to be where you are, MsTerey. It's good to know that you have moved on. That is what I wish for all of us.

Hi everyone -- new here. Been lurking but finally decided to sign up and write. Loved this post. Memorial Day will mark that milestone for me. At every holiday, I've said the next year will be better. Hope it becomes so. I've almost given up on celebrating most holidays ... couldn't even get the Christmas decorations out. Didn't have the heart, and it seemed so sad. This year will be different. I hope. Best wishes to you.

Easter was my last official holiday without the ex so I've gone an entire year too. I'm sooooo glad the year has passed; each day just gets so much easier.

Congrats to everyone on getting through these dates with so much courage and class. Separated in late September. I'm halfway there.