Jljl have you talked to domestic violence for
Support and guidance? I know lawyers cost
Money for stuff like this.

It is financial fraud, is he personality disordered?
Some are out to destroy And are very vindictive.

Wow no honeymoon phase for you if he started
To play financial games way back when. Is he a
Crook? All these things you say about him sound
Pretty Serious.

I have no experience myself

Hugs

(((( JLJL))))

Jljl.... This is such a mess for you. Please, can you contact a woman's shelter, for help from an abusive spouse/ex spouse? If you can tie into the network of protection assistance, they can usually help get you pro-bono, no charge, legal assistance. At the very least, they can help get you into some sort of housing.

Wishing you the best, but this sounds too big to fight yourself.

To everyone on this site, we all share a very important trait. We don't give up. Oh, sometimes we feel like we can't take anymore or feel like giving up, but we would not be here if we actually gave up on ourselves, on the truth, on getting through these hard times.
I finally got Equafax and the other credit report agencies to listen to me. They checked out the dates of my 'confirmed' addresses and realized I did not live in a medical building at the same time I lived in my home of 30 years. They realized the loans and credit cards made on my credit report were impossible for me to have made. They cleared it up. My ex is now guilty of fraud and identity theft but I am letting it go. Someone believes me now and I don't want to have anything to do with attorneys and the court system again.....not if it means seeing my ex.
The important thing is I can now rent my own room and not have my daughter cosign for me.
I informed the IRS and they are dealing with my ex and his taxes. I am not being held responsible.
On Sat we spread my mom's ashes under the Golden Gate bridge and he will not be there.
He will be at the wedding in August, but he has lost some of that control he always has over me. I feel as if it will be ok. I can do it.
Now I just have to start eating again. My daughter and I took my measurements for my Mother of the Bride dress and didn't believe those numbers existed! 31-24-31 at 5'6". Unbelievable what our ex's do to our lives. The stress they cause and how long it can last.
But remember, we are all survivors! All of us here are. We made it this far and we will continue to go forward until we can live again. I will never be happy, but I am in control of my most of my life again.
Don't ever give up. When you feel the entire world is against you, whisper to yourself 'Give it one more try'

JLJL, All i can say is you ROCK !!!!!

I still would not trust him though and i
Would have my lawyer keeping An eye
on things. Especially If you are not backing
it up with real Legal action he might give it
another Try.

Sometimes narcissistic ex spouse do not
Stop playing games.

Hugs you should be proud of yourself

((((((( JLJL)))))

Jijilost, I am sending you a hug, my friend. You are right; we are survivors. Please keep on going. I understand not wanting to be in contact with a vicious, manipulative abuser. Remember you have come so far. Let the authorities deal with him. Hugs to you.

You did well to get this all cleared up. Don't stop there. The only way to get rid of an N is to keep after the wrong things they do. I have nor heard a peep from the ex since the last court hearing when he had to sign this farm over to me or go to jail. I'm proud to say he hates me and that means I will never hear from him again.

Your ex will try something else because you haven't hit him hard enough. Each day you get stronger and if you need to go back to court you will be able to do that without being upset. You are taking care of the business of putting you life back together. I know you are proud of what you have accomplished so far. I do hope he doesn't cause you more trouble. Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. That was what I had to do and I hope you don't have to go thru anymore of his BS. Many (((HUGS))) are being sent your way,

Good on you, JLJL!! Well done. I'm like you and avoided court. I do agree with the others. If so happens your ex tries it again, I'm certain you would find your strength to do what has to be done.

I'm almost 8 years out now and I know what you mean about being able to be at the same place as him. One day you'll surprise yourself with no fear of him at all and no regrets either.

I saw my ex yesterday. The ow is already making comments that tell me he is beginning to show his true colours in their relationship. I am so glad I don't have to put up with all that any more.

Love and hugs
kamary

Wishing you all the best!

So happy to hear this!! It's wonderful news. Good for you for keeping on it until it worked. I'm not even a vindictive type of person, but I would pursue him if there were any blots left on my name or credit.

Hope this time with your daughter brings you closer and much joy.

I squealed so loud that my daughter was asking me what was wrong. I am so happy for you. Yes, continue digging into the past. But I am sure the IRS will be very interested in his creative use of other people profiles. You are awesome. But be careful, that Jekyll and Hyde personality will surface. Go after all you can and more. You deserve that. Hugs.

Hon, it will not be you that will charge him with identity theft, it will the law enforcement. He broke the law. And when you do see him, as I tell others and still do it myself. Smile, a nice slow smile, turn around and walk away. Head held up high. hugs