Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
Hi everyone,
Sorry that I have not been on for so long but I have been so busy and just finished intensive training for a 2nd job teaching biology online every night after work. It is going to be intense for at least the 1st semester. I have absolutely little free time now but it will keep me busy and making some extra money for my retirement in about 8 years. I have tried to read some of the posts from time to time and do think about all of you and hope you are doing ok.
I wanted to wish you a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year although for many of us these are the hardest times. But hopefully with each New Year things will get better. I am often inspired but the determination and positive thinking of so many of you to move ahead and create a new and better life.
I have been doing better most days but I still can't believe what happened to me at times even though it has been 16 months now. I still can't believe he stopped loving me and never told me but lived out a lie for so long. It is so crushing to feel that someone loved you more than life itself only to find out it was not true. My self-esteem is getting better now because I focus most times on what I have to offer like kindness and love and enjoy the time with others who do like or love me.
It has been such a blessing to be part of this group this past year and I will continue to be as you are all such supportive and understanding people. I will try to do the same for you when I do have some free time :) However I do work from 7 AM until I get home at 5 and then I work on-line from about 7-11 PM. So maybe on days off I will try to catch up with you.
Again try to get through these difficult times and remember what everyone on this site says that is does get better. It does but it seems that the sadness lessens but will probably never go away and that is sad in itself. But I am lucky to have what I do have and one of those things is this group.
Thank you all and take care.
Hugs,
Donna
Sorry that I have not been on for so long but I have been so busy and just finished intensive training for a 2nd job teaching biology online every night after work. It is going to be intense for at least the 1st semester. I have absolutely little free time now but it will keep me busy and making some extra money for my retirement in about 8 years. I have tried to read some of the posts from time to time and do think about all of you and hope you are doing ok.
I wanted to wish you a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year although for many of us these are the hardest times. But hopefully with each New Year things will get better. I am often inspired but the determination and positive thinking of so many of you to move ahead and create a new and better life.
I have been doing better most days but I still can't believe what happened to me at times even though it has been 16 months now. I still can't believe he stopped loving me and never told me but lived out a lie for so long. It is so crushing to feel that someone loved you more than life itself only to find out it was not true. My self-esteem is getting better now because I focus most times on what I have to offer like kindness and love and enjoy the time with others who do like or love me.
It has been such a blessing to be part of this group this past year and I will continue to be as you are all such supportive and understanding people. I will try to do the same for you when I do have some free time :) However I do work from 7 AM until I get home at 5 and then I work on-line from about 7-11 PM. So maybe on days off I will try to catch up with you.
Again try to get through these difficult times and remember what everyone on this site says that is does get better. It does but it seems that the sadness lessens but will probably never go away and that is sad in itself. But I am lucky to have what I do have and one of those things is this group.
Thank you all and take care.
Hugs,
Donna
Good to hear from you.
Don't worry about still thinking how he could stop
Loving you. I'm the same way, but that's OK....were human.
Merry Christmas and a happy new year to you and your family.
Peace and good health...
Timeman
I also spend some time wondering 'what on earth happened'. The early days were so much fun and full of love. I don't know what happened but I think I might have put him on a pedestal he had trouble staying on. Basically, I turned a blind eye to early signs of trouble.
Today, I'm hosting my second daughter's family including the in-laws and am looking forward to it very much. They've been here most days this past week as well. We've been having so much fun.
Bob, I'm sorry your wife is injured. You must be meant to stay at home and enjoy a hot chocolate by the fire this year?
love and hugs and fairy lights
kamary
Donna, the sadness DOES go away...it really does! After a few years, it becomes dull and distant, and then...it transforms into ...gosh, I don't know how to describe it. The only thing I can think of is to equate it to a part of your life that happened along time ago, that you still remember, but you just feel....neutral about. Not happy, not sad....it just is there. Yes, it will always be there...but it's not "sad". You just need another year under your belt and you'll know what I mean. In the mean time, keep working hard and socking away money and don't forget to stop and smell the roses......and BUY yourself flowers for heavens sake..you deserve to have beauty around you! Hugs for a great year ahead!