Yes! I've never had a recorder at my house. I just got one and I've been trying to decide on the out going message. I'm thinking about Hi, you reached Sue and her kids. Leave a message for us.

I don't want to say we're not home right now. I don't want anyone to think my stbx still lives here.

I also say my bedroom. I'm thinking of redoing it even though it's on the market. I can't decide if I should wait until I'm in my own home or buy new sheets and a new comforter now and redo my bedroom. Part of me doesn't want the new things to touch this house. Maybe I'll buy them on stbx and store them somewhere else. I get what you're feeling.

Yes, I put the last of the stbx's things in a box and moved his dresser out of the bedroom. Now it is all mine.

Yes, more and more all the time. The thing I struggle with is when I speak to anyone about him I still say my " husband " I can't hardly get the ex word out of my mouth, it even sounds stupid to me. OH well, it will come in time like everything else.

I still have the same problem as 1women using the word ex-husband, so a friend of mine told me to simply refer to him as my children's father. It actually helps because that is all he is to me anymore...he is my children's father and nothing more. And yes, I do use I and me now instead of us and we.

I am just making that transition - ex husband - me - learning how to sign my maiden name again. Wow - it blows me away. Since the house is almost all packed, I am waiting until Ohio to put my imprint on it - I have things I never brought out during the marriage because "he" didn't like em. Well, no more my friends. It's my space now! And yeah right Icookie - my kid's father. Good one.