I vote for getting hit by a truck

Regret and anger can be a cancer that consumes your soul. Being able to forgive is liberating and can be a life defining moment. As you move forward and discover the new you, one of the absolute cornerstones of a happy life is forgiveness. Take the high road and enjoy the view.

It's always a roller coaster, one day thinking you feel great and are over the worst only to find out that's not the case. Research says it takes about 2 years for people to get over divorce (you may not get over it but find it manageable)…now that's not saying you'll have the same intense feelings at the beginning, so I wouldn't say it's the final stage.

For me I think the final stage was not being angry anymore, not caring at all.
Good luck to you.

Forgiveness to all of them him,the mistresses,his family, your family, his friends,my friends, is the only way u move forward...the only way one will start your life is to let it go...holding up any feelings towards them it will just hurt u and also holding u back...I thank Lord I am free of any feelings towards them, as for X hubby the only feeling I have for him is he is my kids dad!!

You can forgive, for yourself but trying forget. That is very hard to do. Because every time I try to forget what he did, something else will remind me of it. But it is not that soul crushing pain anymore. It will get better with time. Be happy, that is the best revenge we have.

LLoyalLeo
I just sent you an article called "What Forgiveness Is Not" via private message. This piece was truly an eye-opener for me when I was still caught in the throes of divorce more than 7 years ago. Hope it's of help to you. Big hugs xoxo

I am not yet divorced - separated almost a year after being abandoned by husband of 34 years (for new folks). I am making great progress and have been feeling good for about 2 weeks now with no downhill rollercoaster. For me that is huge! However, I think I am suppressing anger because the main emotion that I still feel is hurt. I am trying so hard to be angry but I can't bring that out and really feel it. I worry that I will never be able to forgive if I don't feel the anger first. Of course I have some resentment for the way he ended our marriage and treated me after the separation but no real emotional anger has been experienced by me yet such as hitting a punching bag or yelling in the privacy of my home, etc. LoyalLeo - how do you feel anger and express it? You are on the right path because you will be able to forgive eventually if you have that anger first. Our DS friends really know a lot about forgiveness and how it can help YOU. Listen to them. Ndeshimona - your attitude is the one I want to have someday - to be able to forgive, let go and only think of him as the father of my 3 children! Thanks all for sharing your wisdom as usual!

You won't always feel this way...conflicted and wondering. It's been my experience that we do not always react the way we think we will when an emergency arises. So if he did get hit by a truck, you would probably feel bad for him. Hang in there....time will change your perspective on everything. (((HUGS)))

Thanks for the laugh refurb but Misred is right. Although I said it, I am a caring person and would feel bad for him if that happened. CowgirlKathi- thank you for the article. I've read the initial posted article on forgiveness and the one you shared. Still not sure I'm in the "right place" for forgiveness...
I feel pretty confident that I'm past the anger stage. (That'll change if he wins an alimony judgement for me to pay him) I've accepted my situation and firmly believe I am doing the right thing no matter how scary it is. There's still sorrow and sadness in my heart but I really wondered if the days when I think of him and feel sorry for him; for the mess he's made of his life, etc, I wondered if I was beginning to forgive him.