As long as you keep things on common ground, you should be fine. I never discussed my divorce on facebook or any other social media but DS. And they have to have good reason to get a court order to access your facebook account. Besides that, I think facebook is pretty childish. The things that people post, wow, right out of high school. Hugs and smile my friend

I like facebook and created an account when I divorced. I enjoy posting and reading other posts. I have also joined some groups that talk about some medical issues my D has. It has been a huge help. I also do not post anything about the EX. I am still friends with some of his family and my daughter on there so it would not be appropriate. I do my venting here. As far as a pseudo relationship with those on FB. It's possible, but the same thing goes on here. I do get lots of support on both sites. I also get to see pictures of my friends kids and hear about their sports, band or other activities. Then if I run into them in real life I have something to talk about or don't have to try and remember what's happened since the last time I saw them LOL.

If you keep your FB settings private, there is no reason to fear the court wanting to look at it. It's the dummies who put it all in the open and do stupid stuff that have to worry.

IMO FaceBook is kid stuff. Mature adults communicate either in person, by telephone or email and have more than a superficial relationship. I have seen so many people get hurt by postings on FB, particularly when they are going through divorce. I always encourage them to get off and STAY OFF of there until the heat blows over and even then, to block anyone that they don't want to see their postings. It's common sense.

As to worrying about your FB postings being subpoenaed...It is the rare case where computer files or social media postings are investigated in divorce cases. The Rule of Thumb is don't post anything that's at all questionable!

I love FB it is a great way for my children to post pictures of my grandchildren so everyone in the family can see them, nothing childish about that!
I also use FB to sell items I no longer want for extra cash. gotta love that!

During my divorce my lawyer cautioned me not to post anything that could be used against me in the divorce, that was easy since I dont put my personal information out there anyway! But no one cautioned my ex and i was able to take a screen shot of his page i got to by using a friend of ours in common account about him doing side work and it was handy in the financial part of the divorce!

I like FB as it is a way for me to stay connected with my grandiose, nieces and nephews. I NEVER post anything about my ex--nothing. I don't comment on his life at all and I have the skank ho/now wife blocked so I don't have to read her trash.

I keep things on FB neutral and positive, for the most part.

Grandiose should be grandkids--hate auto correct.

I love facebook. It is the modern way to keep social. But as with anything, moderation and good choices are key. It's too easy to vent and while its ok to share your feelings, keep it classy and mature.

I'm on FB. I have 17 friends and no relatives.I have the ex, his wife and one of my sisters blocked. I like keeping up with the few online friends I have.

I dodge FB. I prefer to keep in contact through emails, texts, phone calls and letters. When my girls estranged, it was very hurtful to find photos of my ex and my kids and grandchild and none of me there. Although I've been told that's not the case any more, I just prefer not to go there. My kids all use it, other members of my family and lots of friends use it. It's just not my cup of tea. I think I prefer not to have my life out there for all and sundry to see.

I like facebook but I do think you have to be careful about what you post. It makes me crazy when I see people post that they're at the airport getting ready to go on vacation. I want to scream "Why don't you post yourself with a sign that says please rob me now that I won't be home for a week."

Unfortunately I had a FB account before I got divorced so I had FB friends from my neighborhood and practically all of my in-laws. You have to be careful of your settings or you will see things you can't unsee. I learned that the hard way. You can have people as friends and not follow them and you can also restrict them. I restrict all my ex-in-laws and ex neighborhood friends because I don't want them telling my ex about my life. They only see posts that I make public which are usually only funny or interesting things I post. I also don't "follow" any of those people so if they feel the need to post pics of my ex and schmoopie I don't see them.

Ex doesn't have an account and I block schmoopie so I never see either one of them. I guess the short answer is I think it's Ok but you need to be careful.

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I have lots of enjoyment out of facebook. Friends posts often make me smile, links to music or inspirational videos occasionally strike me as enriching or profound etc. etc. No harm no foul.

That said, I have one good friend who posts so frequently and so many silly things, that I've had to hide her posts so I don't see them anymore! There are lessons to be learned in what is appropriate, for kids AND adults i.e. what is too personal or needy (over posting about one's personal life is a cry for help imho!) etc.

I look at electronic media personal posts of ANY kind as having ZERO privacy ultimately. I think this is just a safe way to operate. Nothing I have ever posted or will post can ever come back to haunt me this way! I never sexualize content or post anything that could be construed as overtly hurtful or rude. That includes my phone texts even!

If I had a great number of friends or family members on fb who were connected to the ex, that would definitely be a problem I'd have to tackle. But I don't.

Goldengirl, you have bigger problems than fb right now! Don't worry about it. If it provides you entertainment value, and you're careful not to be too personal, than just enjoy it!