Continue to take the high road, no matter how frustrating it is. I did this during my divorce and it paid dividends! When my ex's cousin said to me, "You behaved with such class during this divorce" that shows taking the high road pays off.

I do feel bad for your daughter though. Is she old enough to say she doesn't want to meet the new gf?

Good for you, He is her father and kids are smarter than we give them credit. She will figure out the type of man her father is and will let him know in not erms what she thinks of him. Mine did and it has been over 6 months since she even said hi to him, his mommy or big sis. (they are the cause of the marriage breakdown)

I agree with the other posts. Good, common sense and KNOWING that you didn't do anything wrong will pay off and help you to walk around with your head held high. Dignity and Grace under pressure! That is the key to remember as you move through this.

Again, SAY NOTHING. DO NOTHING. Continue to set a good example for your daughter and only answer questions as asked, very simply. One of my favorites has always been "This is life I would not have chosen for you, but it's your life."

While I am not suggesting that you live like a Nun (if you are Catholic, I hope that doesn't offend you, but I think you get my drift) NOT DATING until after your divorce is final (I forget what stage you are in) is ESSENTIAL. Don't want to raise anyone's eyebrows....nor do you want to fall into a rebound relationship. Use this time to get in better touch with who you really are and what you really need and want to make the rest of your life, the BEST of your LIFE!

In truth, no body wants him with his baggage! You're noticing his cycle of misery. Do rejoice that you are out of his dyfunctional mess. You're on the right road that is intended FOR YOU.

After being divorced three years, I see nothing wrong in dating.

When I first started dating again, I knew that women my age were most likely to have children. I also knew what ages those children were most likely to be. I guess the technical term for children is baggage.

The lady I am dating has three daughters - 30, 21, 18. I think they are absolutely wonderful. They were all supportive of their mother when she talked to them about wanting to date. Of course, they had to "accept"w whomever she went out with. And heck, I feel pretty darn good that they all like me.

I just don't buy into the "I have kids so I cannot date" syndrome. Children want their parents to be happy. Just be honest and upfront with them. Don't hide what you do. If you are hiding it, it must be because there is shame and it is being done for the wrong reason.

Ack! I wasn't clear. I have not been divorced for three years. The Original Poster 'mbstone' has.
Duh, I've had a rough day.

Once again, SOUND ADVICE from a MALE perspective! Well stated, Puter! Has it warmed up down there yet? We need a getaway from the frozen tundra of Maryland....

I agree Puter. 3 years means it is time to test the waters. If nothing else to keep the social skills going. My boys like for me to have dates. It makes them feel like I have moved on and am enjoying life.

Hehehe... We had a record snowfall and the city shutdown for two days. It's finally above freezing and the streets are fine. Then again, we have snow moving in Thursday night that will make Friday morning... um... interesting. :-)

I also meant to mention that the woman I am dating is a widow. Even though there are differences in dating a widow/widower versus a divorcee, most of the principles still apply. :-)