Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...

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Do They Ever Feel Guilty

wm98
wm98
This was the question that I have recently contemplated, however why should I even care, because she is now the past. Personally I can say that I could never live with myself if I walked away from my spouse & children in exchange for someone else to meet whatever needs that I felt was missing. I do think that for many of them, this new lifestyle and the new person in their lives help to coverup those feeling of guilt. Have any of you ever discovered that your X had remorse for what they did?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dear Wm98, as the one who left a marraige after 22 years.. yes I feel alot of guilt.. and I did not leave for any one esle... just my own sanity It has been a year and half and I can't say it is any easier. I know we were both miserable.. it's just i was the one who had the courage and strengh to make a change
deleted_user
deleted_user
Its called Narcisisim baby!!!

Goe one just like you
deleted_user
deleted_user
My STBX did not leave me for anyone else. He left for a JOB! But I often wonder does he feel bad, does he feel guilty for doing it. He left his 3 kids behind, 2 still at home. And they have been devastated by this. He does not own up to it at all. If they question him at all, they won't hear from him for weeks after.

I don't know if he ever will really own up to what he did. I do think that eventually, possibly 40 years from now, he MIGHT feel regret. But I'm not even sure about that. I think he knows what he did, but may never really be able to admit it to himself or anyone else.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I doubt it. I think that when a person does this they have lost their heart. How could any parent hurt their children in this way? They just don't care is the only answer I have been able to come up with. It is all about them. It has been almost 6 months since I heard the awful words and last week I had 2 adult children cry to me. Would they ever cry to their father? NO!!!!!!! He will never understand or care what he has done to our family.
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