I think this is great... doesn't trust the mail.. give me a break, she wanted contact with you! Can't your maintenance payment be auto deposited in a checking account or debit account for her, direct? Same with the house payment portion!

This is just the kind of solutions I do for my clients.. who do not want contact with the ex. One ex I told to bring it to my house, leave in the door, if he was concerned about the mail.. I would make sure she got it. He got direct deposit the next week! End of that wanting to "see" her and control things!

How great dear Pemcat..

Well I'm glad you sound so detached at this point. And the business about "she caqn chew on his ass instead of mine" rings familiar to my ears. The OW dumped my X last summer -- too bad because they really did DESERVE EACH OTHER!

She is afraid that I will access her account and take her money...... again controlling....... I have tried to have her let me set up a payroll deduction fir the amount but she thinks I can see her account info........ good grief Charlie Brown give me a break.........

i can only hope that she finds someone........... but life moves on life is great.......NOW

My support was being transferred into my bank acct. The ex's new wife had tried to get access to my acct. The bank refused. Told her she would have to contact me personally.


Now he is mailing the checks. He's still into control. I'm hoping my check is held up on a frozen I-20 and not that he is still playing games with my life.

Your ex must be paranoid to think you could get into her acct.

Good thing to get that contact off of your paws/hands. It would have been nice to find another alternative. Heck, I would have paid the USPS for delivery confirmation and such. Or, if she had a lawyer I would have dropped it there and let her b_tch to her lawyer if that was not good enough.

I am amazed each time I hear of someone that had to have some sort of contact pre- and post-divorce. I cannot imagine the agony and frustration that you folks go through each time you have contact in some way.

Glad to hear things are going well. You have the same attitude about her boyfriend that I have about my ex's girlfriend. It's her ass that will get chewed, not mine. Sounds like she has some paranoia going and I'm glad that you are not buying into it!

Lynne

I agree about the payments--so what if she doesn't trust this or that--you're being inconvenienced and, in addition, she's messing with you--wanting you to see her new bf (she doesn't realize it doesn't bother you).

It's still about control with her--I would mail the payments or set up a bank account for the deposit. If she doesn't like it, let her take you back to court. No judge will give her the time of day.

Hugs, Jack! You always find the sunshine in every situation. :)

Good for you that you recognized she is trying to manipulate you.
No surprise there--she will never stop trying.
It's great that you aren't letting her mess with your mind.
((hugs))

It's great to hear that you are doing well! And life will only continue to get better and better especially when you know you're not that one who has to listen to her anymore.