Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
ok so I filed taxes on my own because stbx went ahead and filed first. This is according to his atty via my atty. That was last Monday. Friday I get text asking if I filed and how. I was "polite" and answered yes since atty said he had. Married-separate. He said he was in big trouble. I needed to call someone at number he sent. I asked what did that have to do with me? Then he asked me to call again. Didn't do it!! Now he's claiming someone got his social #. Amazing that "Mr. I love it that I can take care of own finances" has claimed his checking account has been hacked 2x and now this Irs crap happened to him the last 3 years. Of course I got 3calls in less than 24 hours that showed unknown name unknown number. Don't say it! !! No I did not answer!
On another note I am going in for cat scan this week. Head aches on backside and top. Praying nothing serious. Can I spell s t r e s s ?
On another note I am going in for cat scan this week. Head aches on backside and top. Praying nothing serious. Can I spell s t r e s s ?
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I had gone to the grocery store. When I wheeled my cartback to my car I just stool there a minute. A few spacesaway a Tesla Cyber truck was parked. I had seen it on theroad a few times for a few seconds. But not close up.It looked like it belonged to 2126 and not 2026. I wasgoing to take a picture of the car but the owners cameback and drove away. It was an ordinary middle age...
Divorce can really effect health in a very negitive way.
I will keep you in my prayers.
I hear ya on the stress pains. I've been getting panic attacks lately. Not something I have had in YEARS. I'm trying to refocus. I let him get into my head again and I need to shove him back out!
When was the last time you had your vision checked? Changing eyesight, esp. over 30, can give you headaches like you describe. Maybe you need bifocals!?
You are wise not to rescue him. Let him fix his own mess. IRS trouble for the last three years. Will this come back to you? Check out the injured spouse law on the IRS site.
I hope your scan comes back negative. Ongoing headaches shouldn't be ignored. I use a chiropractor, bowen therapist or sometimes massage. I've had headaches where you describe and they were from my neck and upper back being out of alignment. All the best. I know how worrying they can be. Let us know how you get on.
love and hugs
kamary
PsiChi is right--the minute they run into a problem, they run back to the left-behind spouse to fix it. Let him stew in his own juices.
In the meantime, sending prayers and healing hugs.
I hope there is nothing serious going on with the headaches. You are under a lot of stress (((HUGS)))
Sending prayers that nothing is serious! Please keep us posted. A littlle pampering may help at a time like this. Stress is not good for any of us.
Re your health, it's likely just precautionary on your doctor's part. Keep positive!
I agree with PSIchi's comment about when it comes to them being in trouble, they want to talk to us immediately.
Two years after my divorce, my x came in my office and told me that just didn't realize how much I kept his life in working order. I got a little satisfaction from it but he's so narccistic that I didn't put much stock in it. Just wondered what else he was wanting.....
Hang in there
As for asshole x no new calls or texts. Not that it matters cause I'm ignoring. The taxes for 2011 he told me to file separate too. So I did. He ended up paying like $3000 I think. Of course he told his atty my fault. Hey he told 2 others in family that he wanted to file separate. So thus past year thot I would do what court order said and file together. He violated that order so yes I hope he had to pay again!! My bad!! Heehee
And psi I do already have bifocals. But too many other things not sitting right with these pains. Hoping its sinus. Already have discs in neck that are not collapsing but the filling between is wearing away. Forget the proper medical term. Will let all know when I know. Thanks
Now as far as the headaches, you might check out TMJ. Stress causes it and it causes headaches. Mine went away after divorce! Prayers and hugs for you!
Diane