Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
i still beg her to come back .she was coming in aug . then in oct now is dec. at first she denied living with the man .then she said she with him .now she saying she has no man and i can not accuse her because i have no proof .i have my 15 year old who has exams in april next year .i asked my wife to come and be there for the kid she said she will come in december .my older daughter who is also with me helps out in the home ,but she works and is a single parent of a 3 year old ..my wife is abroad and i text her almost daily ,some times she not reply for days . my kids not speak to her and she does not contact them.i think the only reason she keeps contact wit me is to have a link to the kids . i know she is living with the man ,but to still want her back .i am lost without her .think of her all the time .i am hurting terrible .i love her so much .i do not care what wrong she do me ,i am hurt about the things she do .but i still want her back .i take tablet.to help me sleep but still not get enough sleep .6 hours sleep the most ..she is so heartless not care about the teen age girl child .she abuses me on the phone and say i put the kids against her .twice i ask the kids to call her and beg her to come home .first time she told them she will come in aug.she lied. second time she not listen to them she tel them we treated her bad and hang up. my life is a disaster . it is hard on the 2 kids having to live with me in my state of mind.wish things were different .i wish she would come back .so much pain
Go no contact and heal.....you can be happy without her. Happiness doesn't come from the outside - it's an inside job - no one can give it to you.
Hugs,
Donna
You are still feeling this way after 5 months? I think it's time to get some counseling, my friend. If you are already in therapy, maybe you need to look for a different therapist.
Why do you want someone who is with another man, someone who hurts you so much. The women you are wanting back is no longer the women you fell in love with.
Like the others said you need to start putting yourself first. You and the kids need to make a life together, and do what you can to move on without her.
What you want is your life back, but that life is over. You need to now make a new life , and start to move forward.
You can never go home, if she comes back it won't be what you dream about
(((HUGS))) I can feel your pain but you really need to start being realistic.