Welcome, rose
This group isn't as active as some of the others, but there is good information here as well as support.

Hi rose...welcome. I was married for 24 years and I have been here for a little over a year. This is a great group of people and I'm sure you will find the help and support you need. For me it has been a life saver...Big Hugs...Kathy

Hi rose, Yes this is a good group. We understand how hard it is to move away from a long term marriage. You will get your help here. There is a lot of wisdom in this group of men and women. I think you will like it here.

Hi Rose
I too recently joined here. There is a different atmosphere here than other groups. Here it feels like the hurricane has past and everything is calm and the sun is shining.

Hi Rose sorry you are here but welcome. There is alot of good information and support. Red, I agree for many the hurricane has passed , not all, sometimes when in the spin it is hard to GIVE advice, what you may have seen are the more vocal, those who have moved on ( are we ever going to really be done with this) I am not one of those, so I speak for myself.. I read a lot, try to gain strength from those in a better spot than me. I do feel things will get better, we have our own road to walk in our own time. I hope this group can offer insight and support to you Rose. Hugs

You will move on, get over this and be happy if that is what you want to do.. but it has to be about you and what you want. This is hard for a lot of people in long term marriages to do.. to define who they are and what they want after divorce. What you want can change also is hard to define.. in the begining it should be about finding out what that is.. and it may be small steps such as a new job, a new place to live, new friends. Later it may be a relationship, a vacation or a personal challenge or goal! Always a work in progress, as is life. The deal is to not let divorce or toxic anger define your life or make you bitter after divorce. If you do that you will not move forward. Life is not a dress rehersal, this is it, waste it not and do not spend too long being angry if you are the one that did not want the divorce. Us oldies will tell you we did not think we would move on.. but you do. I always knew I would survive.. no one died from getting divorced, I just wanted to know when it would get better. Only I could figure that out by taking action to do it!

I came here divorced, well on the way to happiness but was lonely and needed a common ground of people whom understood a divorce after a long term marriage. I did move on, made new friends here, and in "real time" and have never been happier. I like being independent, not that I wasn't before marriage and during it, but realize now what kind of emotional strain I lived with for a lot years. I will be grateful always that he did go to therapy with me for a year, that nothing between us was undone or unsaid when we did divorce. I had that advantage, which is huge.. and am the better for it. For what I do know is that if you do not address or own your part in the relationship, good and bad, you will not move on and be free to live life on your terms..

So welcome and it is good to see new people on here, for a lot us, me included are either too busy or have moved on. Divorce was a life changing event for me, leading to a new life, new career, helping others as an advocate, new friends and happiness.. my wish for all here to move forward to a wonderful life in what they want. Hugs and welcome.

Thank you all for your welcome, I hope that coming here to read other post or even write my own to get some answers or understanding will help move on because that is something I really want to do.

Welcome Rose...haven't been here long myself but I have a good feeling about this group and all the wonderful people in it. Hugs to you!

Hiya rose77. Hate to see that you are here. Welcome.

Depends on your definition of single. For me, it means taking good care of myself, finding small things that I like to do - and seeing what turns into what I love to do - exploring new things, exploring old things, and generally discovering ME. I think that is the best thing to come of a divorce. Within divorce, we are living for the other person. After divorce, we have to look inside and live for ourselves. I think this is fantastic!

I have seen people here start finding themselves. Whether it is decorating a house that only they have, or discovering that they like to paint, or some other such endeavor, you will find this too. While society is geared around the couple, that does mean that is the way you must live your life. I remember at a restaurant with a woman and her family. the waitress hands me the bill and mentions that I have a lovely family. *chuckles* There has even been a couple of times I was asked about my "wife" with me. Gotta laugh and just go on.

You will find much here. Just keep coming back now and then.