How long have you been going out with your boyfriend? What's the reason you don't bring him to family gatherings? I think it's time you put away the immature nonsense that both of them are doing, and chalk it up to hatefulness. Go to things with your boyfriend, and forget about them. He's just someone that you used to be married to. That's all.

I've been dating my boyfriend around 4 yrs now. When some of my family first met him, it was odd. I got a nasty e-mail from my sister in law, plus papers in the mail, saying my boyfriend had no claim on our family business. So, he just avoids most of my family. He loves my sister's family, they are down to earth, former farmers, still live there. I'm in that mode. I gave up the corporate life, and I think it bothered my ex. Ex wants the high life.

I actually can't get away from ex. Other than him living a block away, he still works for my family. My boyfriend does business with him. He's just always there.

Well, 4 years is a long time and if he's going to be part of your life, your family must understand. I don't know why your family would feel the need to send him papers saying he had no claim to the family business - he's just your boyfriend - and it's your family's business - not yours, so that's weird.

It's also weird that your ex still works for your family and that your boyfriend does business with your ex. But that's neither here nor there in the grand scheme of things.

Ultimately, what your ex and his girlfriend do shouldn't affect you at all. Seems like you still have some work to do to let go of those ties/emotions so you become indifferent to it all. I'd start including your boyfriend, if your serious about this man, your family will just have to deal with it, and it will most likely make your relationship with your boyfriend stronger.

Try to dig deep and figure out why what your ex and his girlfriend do are still triggering you.

Hello,
If I may,..............sounds like a comp!icated situation with your x
Family and your boy friend WORKING for him. Sorry to say,
I think there will always be some kind of problems with all of you.
It would be best for you and your boy friend, if you could distance yourself from everyone .
If not for good then temporarily..
Good luck.
Timeman

What caught my attention was that they were making out, in broad daylight. Wow, are they still in high school? As for everyone else their opinions are of no concern of yours. I would just smile, turn around and walk away from the ex and his current flavour of the month. You live life the way you want to not dictated by anyone. Hugs my friend and smile

Any chance you could sell up and move further away? At least you wouldn't have to put up with them turning up around your home like that. I think they're both being very childish and are trying to upset you. Show them you don't care what they do, and treat them like any other people you might run into, or who might want to show your dogs some attention.

I'm not sure what's going on with your boyfriend. It sounds like there's more here than we know about, but yes, I would take him to your kids' events and make him part of your life if that's what you want. You can sort out legal technicalities with your family if you are really serious about him, even if it means he can't ever be a part of the family business. At least you know that up front.

love and hugs
kamary