Hi Rozeo, I've never felt judged because of income levels personally . As for my disability ( I'm blind) affecting my relationships, it would be fair to say its caused issues, but more at the meeting someone and initial stages as opposed to later on.

ive never really felt judged at all.My disabilty affects my relationship basically just because im in the hospital alot and being long distance on top of it ..umm it can be trying to say the least.

I gave up looking because I felt judged because of being on disability and being disabled. I think coming here is a first step. It is unfair but that is the way things are. I think other lesbians who are disabled should form a bond. I am glad you opened up. Here you won't be judged. We are all in this together. I am afraid that is all I can offer you at this time because I am in the same boat.

Rozeo:

I have indeed felt judged by being low income and disabled. Some women are reluctant to date you, or treat you like you don't exist. Of course, they try to be polite about it, but once you tell them you are on disability they never call back. I'm an intelligent person with a college degree with a respected university, but low income lesbians with disabilities are often looked over and ignored. My disability certainly has limited my dating prospects. Although I have arthritis, bad knees, and a history of major depression, sometimes I can pass as not being visibly disabled. That is, I'm not in a wheelchair, so it's assumed that I'm not disabled. I've had women come right out and ask me what I do for a living, and how much money I make. I'm almost ashamed to tell them that I'm on Social Security Disability. Disabled lesbians are definitely at a disadvantage.

I try not to let it get me down because I know that I still have a tender and caring heart and I'm bright and witty. Still, it feel like a kick in the gut sometimes to be judged as not worthy or second best.

Wow, great responses here. I am in the same situation. Unless I am in the hospitol with an infection in my lungs, My badly damaged knees and my major depression issues don't show either. I am ashamed to say this but where I live in Toledo Ohio, 90% of the lesbians here see you as what you do for a living, how much you make and what kind of home or car you drive. For a lesbian to not be working or living in a better part of the city it's like you are scum. This is harsh but it is what I have encountered over and over. It's more the stigma of being low income than being disabled here that I am dealing with. Heck, no many years ago women were not even suppose to be working, my how that view has changed in the lesbian community to the point where they don't even view your disabilities as reason to not work. Funny thing is, I do work part time when I can. I do computer repair but it's not a very steady thing and yes at times challenging for me when I am dealing with the depression/anxiety or when I am sick physically. I have to be very careful to not get a cold because it can land me in the hospital very fast. I am just so discouraged by how judgemental the lesbians here are. They sure don;t want to be judged at being gay but they judge those who are not "well to do" daily. It really makes me sick.

I have also had relationships where they no right up front I am disabled on low income and they are fine with it for a year or so and then they start making comments about it. I just don't get it.

Didn't get that far, joined a dating site recently, daily messages, including some pretty full on ones, from one person every day until I described my disability, three weeks ago, since then absolutely nothing.

Hi Rozeo,

I know where you are coming from. It's like if you don't have a real nice car and a good job you're invisible.

Wow Its been 4 years since I started this topic and sorry to say nothing has changed. People still seem the same. I am also doing another job, resale stuff. I work when I can and am able.