Developing a Positive Attitude DAPA Community Group
Hi, This group is dedicated to helping people develop a positive attitude. It is for all depression sufferers, anybody who suffers from anxiety or stress, has suffered bad experiences in the past, or anyone who desires to develop a more positive attitude through positive thinking.
Something occurred to me as I think about myself. My whole life I have gotten into the habit of giving to others and I tend to come across as strong and not needy. The truth is that I DO need to lean on others, but I don't know how to shed my outer layer of toughness and show my own vulnerability. Everyone that knows me sees me as the one to come to because I am supportive and seem to have it all together...but the truth is that I feel very sad and lonely inside, and NOT together at all.
As a child and young adult I had to parent my parents and I learned how to shut off my emotions. Now I have pushed my feelings so deep down that the only way I know how to be is to appear strong and in control...which is not how I really feel. The truth is I don't know how to feel. Rarely do I cry and rarely do I feel utter joy.
What I show the world is very different than what is inside of me.
As a child and young adult I had to parent my parents and I learned how to shut off my emotions. Now I have pushed my feelings so deep down that the only way I know how to be is to appear strong and in control...which is not how I really feel. The truth is I don't know how to feel. Rarely do I cry and rarely do I feel utter joy.
What I show the world is very different than what is inside of me.
When you lean on us I also want you to realise that you can lean on yourself because in your heart you are a strong and loving person.
You need to learn to accept yourself and understand what that means, welcome your vunerability and sensitivity with open arms. Realise that you are human and that people must also understand that you have your human limitations like anybody else.
I will start by bumping a post on self acceptance.
How can I learn how to feel and let others see who I really am? I don't know how to be real...I've lived my life as a facade.
Now I think that I have SO much inside just needing to come out.