I'm new here and I am at my wits end with my sister. I live with my dad who has some health problems and is 95, my narcissistic sister (the oldest sibling) comes over 1 to 2 times a day plus calls twice a day. My other sister lives about 5 hours away and we both are so fed up. My dad feels she (the oldest) can do no wrong, was always his favorite and doesn't want to hear about the wrong she does. My mom died a few years ago and since then my dad has been letting her clean the house-throw out whatever she wants, touch everything. I have threatened to move out a few times. I do have a storage unit where I keep a lot of stuff safe from her moving, touching or discarding it but otherwise i have to keep my stuff in my bedroom. I recently had to go out on the day before Thanksgiving to buy a large pot to cook the food for the next day- mom had a bunch of large pots but now they are all gone or she moved/sold them. I promised my mom I'd take care of dad but honestly if I could financially I would move out. My sister is so conceited, bossy, controlling etc. My dad has home health and she told them to call her to set stuff up-this was when dad was real sick and I stopped working, I'm still home full time now. My other sister and I vent to each other but its good to know we're not alone. I used to be in an abusive marriage so it is hard for me to just fluff off her b.s. The hundred questions she asks, stupid ones like she doesn't think. I try to avoid her as much as possible but my brother was over today so I spent time with them. Ended with me yelling at her and going back upstairs. Then she sent a weird text that didn't make sense. I know my dad loves me (but always picked on me, not as much now that mom's gone, he's even told me he's glad I'm here) but he wants us to all get along not realizing he has made things worse by stroking her ego and allowing all this. When mom was alive things would have never been this way. He also tells her all about his health and not me, found out how bad off he really was earlier this week because I was there when the nurse came today. But he never told mom about his health either...Any advice on how to cope when you can't totally get away from someone?