Daughters of Abusive Mothers Community Group
For those of us whose mothers were (or still are) abusive to us. In a society that puts mothers on a pedestal it can often be lonely dealing with the feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, emptiness and grief of having an abusive mother. People with loving mothers often find it hard to believe or understand. Here is a safe place to express the feelings and find others with...
I'm 34 years old, I have been with my Fiancé for almost 11 years and we have 3 Amazing Kids together. I always knew something was wrong with the way my mother treated My Siblings and I growing up, but until about 4 years ago or so I had no answers. Now I know she has Narcissistic personality disorder. I did research and have talked to therapist after therapist about how we were treated and still are by her. A few months ago she told me she can never love her children and she never has. Her and I have never and I mean never got along. I actually stopped talking to her for 2 years to keep my Kids away from Her and for me to try and stay sane. Last October I brought my Kids over to her house to take them trick or treating with my Nieces and Nephew. Well everything went okay a few weeks later I get a call from My Mom saying she wants to pay off my credit so I can get a house. Then a week after that it changed to she will buy me a house and I will pay her the mortgage. So in January we moved in to a 3 bedroom house around the corner from Her house ironically. Then poop hit the fan. Since January I have been horribly depressed some days not even leaving the couch. She has yelled at me and belittled me in front of my Kids who are all under 8 years old. Saying things like she would pay my bills if I left my Fiancé. In front of my Fiancé even. She tells us who we can and can't have in our house or hang out with. She told us months ago we could get a dog, now she says she never said that and we can't have any animals at all. I help her by watching my niece mon-Fri and when My Mom comes to pick her up she questions her about who we have at the house and whatever else she wants to know. I have always been Her worthless Daughter that only messes up, yet I am the one who Has taken care of all 3 of My Kids with no help from anyone since they were all born. I have been with My Fiancé for 10 1/2 years. I have arthritis in my spine as well as my other joints and was on severe pain meds for 7 years without realizing what they were doing to me. I chose to go into inpatient rehab myself to get off of them and have been completely clean for 2 years as of August 15th. With support from My Hubby and My Kids! She has never said anything positive to Me, My Hubby, My Kids or My Siblings! I don't know what to do. All of my Money is tied up in this house and I hate being under her thumb!! I feel like I'm going Crazy because of Her, she is draining the Happiness and Life from me.
