Daughters of Abusive Mothers Community Group
For those of us whose mothers were (or still are) abusive to us. In a society that puts mothers on a pedestal it can often be lonely dealing with the feelings of hurt, betrayal, anger, emptiness and grief of having an abusive mother. People with loving mothers often find it hard to believe or understand. Here is a safe place to express the feelings and find others with...
I've been having trouble with fatigue, it seems like some sort of auto-immune disorder. They can't figure out what it is so now the blame is because my mother was abusive I have some unresolved issues. I've been down this road, I've had over ten mental health evaluations that say, I'm healthy, well adjusted and fine. I just get tired of going through this over and over for doctors to be satisfied. I can't drive, so I have to beg friends to drive me or pay them to so it is even more annoying than normal to go through this dog and pony show to please another doctor.
Can I ever be deemed as mentally OK? Why is it people with mean Dad's don't get sent to therapy every time they get physically sick?
My roomates in the hospital were not well adjusted but because they had easily identifiable problems or were willing to just go home and give up on finding out the problem, they weren't mandated to see a therapist.
So now, not only to I HAVE to pay copays to see a therapists and probably have to pay someone to dirive me there too. I'm feeling victimized by my mother all over again and the system joins with her to gang up on me.
Can I ever be deemed as mentally OK? Why is it people with mean Dad's don't get sent to therapy every time they get physically sick?
My roomates in the hospital were not well adjusted but because they had easily identifiable problems or were willing to just go home and give up on finding out the problem, they weren't mandated to see a therapist.
So now, not only to I HAVE to pay copays to see a therapists and probably have to pay someone to dirive me there too. I'm feeling victimized by my mother all over again and the system joins with her to gang up on me.
I am 48 years old and still put up with her nasty phone calls. She lives far away (Germany) and I live here in the States so that is a big plus for me. And no I don't visit her torture chamber, why spend all that money on a plane ticket and all she wants to do to me is torture me with her insults.
My hubby does not understand why I don't want to visit her. People who don't have mothers like us have no clue how much it hurts.
Find a way, and I know it is very hard for me too, to cut her out of your life. If she only makes you miserable, what is the point of having contact?
"You can not win a fight without fighting". I finally decided that is what I have to do, before she destroys me.Hope the best for you.