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Sometimes I am with a group of people and someone will talk about how wonderful their moms are and how close their relationship is. I am genuinely happy for them, but my mind often wonders what it is like to have a relationship like that with a great mom and also what it would be like to grow up in a home with a great mom. I wonder how I might be different if I grew up with a normal, great Mom. Would I have been instilled with so much that I would have taken on the duties of Hillary Clinton as Secretary of State or running for future President instead of her?

I understand how you feel AnnaMarie34, it is hard to admit to ourselves that we did not get that mother others have and we wanted, but I am just glad that I found a good husband and had the opportunity to build my own family and can say that I have a great relationship with my daughter and with my two sons, I am very proud of them and I am proud of myself that I stopped that cycle of "unloving" or "not able to show love" mother. I never really got to know my mothers mother (grandma on moms side), but I don't think they could have had the most loving relationship otherwise she would not have made my mother marry my dad, because she really did not want do because of the family dynamics in my dads household. Sometimes I would dream about how my mother could be, then she called and reality hit again. I know that it will never be what I would like it to be, but I am glad that there are others who did get that loving mother, otherwise the world would be really screwed up if nobody got a good one. lol And AstimeGoesB I have to tell you again, that you are the most caring person I have known in a long time, be proud of yourself . We all need to realize that we need to build our own happy life, no matter what has happened, I declared victory over my life today, I will not be defeated. Peace and Love to you all my dear friends.

Thanks Enchanting. I still have that wonder inside of what my life would have been like with a really loving mom and how my life would have changed? Don't we all wonder at some point?

Would we have devoted time and became the Nelson Mandela's of our age? Would we have drilled down and found cures to cancer, migraines, fibro, etc. because we were loved from the time we were little and didn't have that stress? Would we have become political figures that made great strides in helping everyone around the globe? I sometimes wonder how much it is impacted who we are as adults and to what extent.

I agree with you AstimegoesB we propably would have been very different if we had gotten that loving relationship with our moms and/or parents, probably more successful in life. I know you have suffered a lot more than me with your mother, so be glad that you are the way you are, so loving, helpful, caring, you are awesome. We have our talents despite of what we have gone thru, so we should be glad and thank our Heavenly Father for all the good things we have. Maybe some people have more, are more educated, are more successful etc etc, but in the End all of this does not really matter, does it!? Many things we can research and study ourselves online. My grandmother used to say" you don't have to be very smart, all you have to know how to help yourself". Also I feel there are cures for cancer, fibro etc etc they just don't want us to know about them, I strongly believe that cannabis oil can cure disease. You may want to do research on that. Just wanted to mention it. Also earthclinic.com is a good website to get info for illnesses. God bless you. Peace and Love.

Thanks every one. You guys always help me feel better about my life. It is great to have such understanding friends. Thanks for the web site. It is very helpful Lots of Love and Hugs Annamarie

Hi AnnaMarie: When I realize I got shorted on the great moms, I look around and I realize I did get two great cats, and The Boss and The Marshmallow take better care of me than my mom ever did!!!

I came home from Urgent Care last Sunday and had antibiotics and just stretched out on the sofa with the pillow and blanket and quickly there was "Dr." Marshmallow.

He gets up close and does his famous "CAT Scan" where he stares into my face and I know with the remarkable senses he is reading my pulse, my blood pressure, my temperature and running a fast chemical check. He then diagnoses the location he must lay whether on the pillow on top of my head, on my chest, next to my chest, next to my stomach, next to my head and then gets to it and gets right up against me in the proper area and purrs intensely. He has long, soft, nice smelling fur, and his purr sounds great and I'm off to sleep. He stayed with me the whole day, getting up with I did.

The Boss cat kept watch from the carpeted cat furniture to make sure no intruders approached our, excuse me, HER empire, and that I would be defended from all humans, any cats that would try to steal me away, and any fly that dared to appear.

I like your positive attitude. You are so blessed to have Dr. Marshmallow and the Boss cat. I hope you are feeling better. Hugs AnnaMarie

HELLO ANNEMARIE, IF IT HELPS I HAVE NOT HAD ANY CONTACT WITH MY YOUNGER SISTER FOR 19 YEARS, SHE ABUSED ME TOLD LIES AND TURNED MY MOM AGAINST ME, BUT WHAT MADE ME VERY SAD IS THE FACT THAT MY MOM BELIEVED HER LIES, I WAS SO HURT AFTER MY MOM DIED THAT I NEVER SPOKE TO HER, SHE DID LOTS OF BAD THINGS, EVEN STOLE A HEIRLOOM MY GRANDMOTHER GAVE ME WHEN I WAS JUST SIX YEARS OLD, SHE WAS SO JELOUS, I CUT HER OUT FOR GOOD TO SAVE MYSELF, SHE STILL CALLS ME MAD, MY AUNTIE TELLS ME''
YOU GOT LOOK AFTER YOURSELF ENJOY YOUR LIFE AND CUT THE TOXIC FAMILY MEMBERS OUT, LOVE LUCY**

Hi JoyHolly, You are so right I have decided to focus on the blessings of not having my sister and mother in my life. Your situation sounds a lot like what has a happened to me.I am sorry you had to go through that.
My sister turned my mother against me too. They didn't tell me my father was dying.I haven't talk to them since
Jan. I don't miss all the drama and heartache they have caused for me and my son. We had to leave them alone for our safety.I usually do really good. This time of year is hard my father died on Nov .26. That is when things got really ugly. Thanks for understanding Love AnnaMarie

HELLO ANNEMARIE, SO SORRY ABOUT YOUR DAD, WISH YOU PEACE AND COMFORT, REMEMBER THE HAPPY TIMES, ANDDON'T LET THE REST UPSET YOU,BE STRONG, LOVE LUCY**

Thanks Lucy for your good advice and support. Love AnnaMarie

For our own safety and mental health, sometimes we have to distant ourselves from people on hurt us on purpose. ' We can't pick our families...Strangers treated me nicer than my own ''mother'' did. Also, I wouldn't let a stranger treat me the way she had all my life. It's been one year since I have spoken to my ''mother''. Honestly, I feel so much better for doing this. I can relate when you said being in public and hearing how ''normal'' mother and daughter relationships are... This used to bother me too, however, I have accepted this estrangement. I didn't abuse her...she abused me. She made her choices, and I had to make mine. I finally protected myself, and went on with my life. We are all coping with the same thing here, and, it's nice to know that we are not alone...