This entire site has been a wonderful resource to help me get through a nightmare divorce. I'm not totally healed but have come a long way and have decided any dating I do for awhile will only be casual at most. I'm a naturally positive person and along with that I'm always looking forward...it's just my nature. Because of that I'm trying to picture what serious dating in my future will be like. I mean all of us over time have assembed "lists" in our heads of likes, dislikes, must-haves, etc. for future relationships based on experiences with past ones. This site has brought to light the most glaring issue I see that I've never felt I'd struggle with before: trust.
I'm an extremely resilliant person even in the area of trust but after this divorce (my ex hid a ton of her past, had sort of a double-life going on and had been planning our split for about a year), I don't know how I'll ever fully believe anyone again. Have any of you worked through this and how exactly did you do it????