Quick synopsis: Met someone online, listed career as videographer, but no salary listed ( and i did not list mine for fear of golddiggers). After a bit of dating, realized he did not have a steady job, had not had one in a few yrs after getting laid off from a good job, and trying to start his own handyman company. Seems motivated, hard worker, great w my kids and family and friends. But i am having a hard time w this - i am a hard worker, great career, 401k, all sorts of insurance etc - he is 49, no steady job (but just got his HVAC certif so possible jobs on the horizon?) - no savings, no retirement, no medical insurance, no life insurance. Unfortunately, before i knew all this, i stupidly got engaged, but am now having serious doubts. Any advice or has this happened to anyone else out there? Trying to decide whether to be patient ( for how long?) and see what happens, or just ease out now, before we become even more entangled.