I've been dating off an on as I've felt ready after my divorce. Felt like I'd had enough over the winter so I took a break until this summer. I used to immerse myself in just one person and one relationship at a time. Now I'm more relaxed about dates and occasionally dating different women around the same time. Frankly, all of us middle-aged divorcees have our own kind of scars and it doesn't take long to see even the most stable person is still somewhat fragile.
What seems unfair is that so many women say they're putting serious effort into finding a mate yet deep down you learn they really don't know what they want. This is the most discouraging thing I keep finding. I'm in no hurry so this isn't a big deal but it does make me feel like I'm wasting my time. I know...I know-every date teaches you something. I'm just not used to more than one woman at a time...this short dating stuff isn't comfortable for me but I'm coping, learning and realizing this is just a different journey. Still, deep down it sometimes feels "cheap." Anyone else experience this?