You are ahead of the game to think of grief counseling. I highly recommend counseling. It has helped me tremendously. For me, I started and after a few sessions it started to get hard and I didn't think I wanted to continue, but I did. I had some difficult sessions, but when I look back, they were the ones that helped the most. So remember when you think you just can't go back, push yourself and go anyway. You'll be glad later you did. I'm so sorry for your loss, that must have been a tragic ordeal to go through. As far as blaming yourself, unless you have magical mystical powers, blaming yourself is just wrong. We, as plain ordinary humans, don't have the ability to decide life and death. Unless you think your God you can't hold onto blame. I know it sounds harsh but loosing our Dads is hard enough all by itself, without adding additional baggage to the process. Don't allow yourself to accept blame, you did the best you could, it was all out of your control. Counseling will help get past the tramatic memories, so give yourself some kindness and go. This is a wonderful group to add to your support network. My Dad passed away Feb, 3 2008. Without therapy and this support group I couldn't have made it. Big hug to you, Marge

Try the counseling. If it's not your niche, maybe a support group you can attend. If you prefer to find support online...this place and so many other sites have been a godsend. We all understand here. hugs Taters

I think counseling is a great idea. I have my first appointment tomorrow, and while I know it can't fix everything , it also can't hurt. Give it a try atleast!

I lost my dad a year ago and i decided to go to councilling because i was finding it hard to cope I went to 2 lots because the one wasnt very long the first one was very good but the second one that i went to was absolutly rubbish. They were more like nosey neighbours they would want to no exactly wot i did and read my emails. So if u did go into councilling choose one that is good for u but i have found this site great and helpful for me more helpful than any councilling that i have had

i would recommend the counseling also..I should of went and didn't..I thought I could handle it myself, but I almost had a nervous breakdown..was hospitalized for awhile..I was also with my daddy when he passed, I was holding his hand..it was very tramatizing (sp) If you feel you need someone to talk to, then you should..I am grateful that I found this site, it really did help me when I thought I just couldn't go on..I will keep you in my thoughts......Vickie

I think counseling is a very good idea. I have grabbed on to everything I can to get through.

You might try a local grief counseling group in your area and see if anyone there can recommend a good therapist.

I know you did everything you could. We so often blame ourselves for not being God.