you are having problems and you are unhappy but you know that if you talk to your closest friends, they will just worry about you? my closest friends have their own problems which are much bigger than mine. i am finding small ways to deal with things temporarily but i have no solution as to how i can feel better in the long run. but i can't talk about it to them because i need to be there for them. they say that they want to know, and it is worse for them to not know, but they just don't see how much it hurts me to know that i am just making things worse for them. all i want to do is be there and help, but i just always make things worse. i love them and i don't want to hurt them. i tried to just walk away, but i can't. i need him, i need them. and i can't make them think they make it worse for me. they don't. i am so glad to have them in my life. but i just don't know what to do or how to deal. they should be worrying about themselves, taking care of themselves, get themselves safe and better. they shouldn't have to worry and take care of me just because i can't take care of myself. i shouldn't be their responsibility. i hate this, i don't know what to do.
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i know what you mean. it can be extremely difficult to talk to people when you feel guilty for it. but people need people and every relationship is a give and take. your friends will probably get satisfaction if they not only take from you but give something back as well. it is a great feeling to help someone else you care about, even if it's just by listening to them. if you think you will feel guilty about it though, you may want to find someone objective to talk to about things. when i felt this way about talking to my friends and family i found a counselour who was very helpful.
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yeah i know how it is also i found that writting in my journal.
smirker
write in ur journal is a popular one, i can believe how much better i feel after a good old journal! ^.^
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