I'm with you brother! Take heart you are not alone. Stand strong and make a commitment and goal to put honesty at the core of your soul. Pick an exact time to stop lying and hold to it. Lying is just like trying to stop any addiction, and its close to impossible to go it alone. Relationships are built on trust and the moment we lie we destroy the relationship and return to the beginning. Its so difficult to try to figure out why we are liars, Try as best you can to figure that out first, Are you seeking approval do you want people to just like you? I mean that sounds silly and childish but are we insecure? I can tell you that I am sometimes and it sucks. Are you running the rat race and trying to keep up with everyone around you making yourself out to be something that you are not? Its so important to know ourselves and defend ourselves. Its okay if people don't like us. Maybe that's not why you lie, perhaps its something else. But its worth trying to reflect and figure out why. I lie for many other reasons as well. I can tell you the hardest part of trying to be honest is just how difficult it is not to take the cheap easy way out. I run from the uncomfortable situations in which the truth is just not convenient, its down right controversial and antagonistic. So I take the easy way out and avoid the confrontation and lie away to make the easy escape. it works so well because nobody notices it until you get caught and we always eventually get caught. it sometimes takes years but we still get caught. and we're back to square one. Its so frustrating to spend so much time working on rebuilding damaged lost trust only to have it demolished with any size lie. it especially hurts when its the dumbest stupidest littlest lie that we justify as no big deal. but it is a huge deal. any lie whatsoever undermines everything. and so we stand among the rumble and try our best to beg for another chance to begin rebuilding again. You are not alone and I pray for you specifically and all of us that are tormented by this addiction. peace be with you and may you find the courage to continue the fight! Figure out why and then figure out what triggers you to lie and try your best to put a stop to it. Make a commitment to put honesty at your core and try to find someone to hold you accountable. Don't worry about what other people think start today and if you fail start tonight! keep trying! and don't give up, and never surrender to the darkness within all of us!

Thank you so much for your response. Everything you said hits home with me and you expressed everything about me to a tee. I believe I do what I do to get attention, to make people like me and to make myself out to be someone I am not.

I have made a commitment to treat this like an addiction and although I started two weeks ago i have already found myself slipping back more than once. I vow to never give up and with God's grace I will turn things around and become the person I was always meant to be.

Thank you so much!