From one abuse victim to another it took me a long time to become a survivor after years of abuse. They tear you down and make you doubt yourself. it is so hard. if you can find a therapist that does hypnotizing that helped me . But make sure it's a woman. I am here if you ever want to talk it is not easy , allow yourself time to heal you figure you were abused for 11 years. Abusers play all sorts of minds games as well as abusing, from physical, emotional, mental, psychological it is not easy to come back from. Try and make some really good female friends who know what your going through, I found family were of no help , they thought well he's gone you should be okay , it doesn't work that way. Sending love and support , there's a great group of people here. Hugs casey

I am out of a twenty year abusive marriage. I was completely stripped of my self worth. He controlled me financially and be little everything I did and to this day do not have any friends. My doctor believes that all the trauma caused my body to break down and now I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Coming back to life from trauma is a long road *but* the road is safe when you have people you trust and who can understand. Walk with them.