I looked online for a group to talk with as I'm really trying this time to get out of a bad relationship with a man who is probably a Narcissist.  At the very least he is self-centered, controlling, and lacks empathy.  While I am not saying he is a completely bad person, I do know that our relationship has been one of focus on his plans and needs and disrespect and verbal abuse toward me.  It was not that way in the beginning,  It waas wonderful.  Man of my dreams and to hear him tell it, woman of his.  It just didn't stay that way.  I am hoping to make this the LAST break up.  It's something like 12 now (Not what is meant by 12 step, for sure!)  I have gone, no contact.  I'm trying not to continue to wear out my friends and family with  listening.  I've lost quite a few friends who can't figure out what my problem is.  It should be easy to leave such a jerk, to hear them tell it.  Anyway, it has never been more than a few weeks and we have gotten back together.  I both don't want to and still miss him on some levels.  I'm an older lady, so you'd think I should be able to deal with this.  I go through strong, motivated and purposeful moments in my days followed by depressed, weepy, achingly empty and sad times.  It's awful.  I have to learn to deal though.  I am reading some good books and will start working with a counselor this week.  Whatever it takes, I have to break free and more importantly, I have to learn to care for myself and stop being codependent.