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Lack of Trust
Codependents:
-Don't trust themselves.
-Don't trust their feelings.
-Don't trust their decisions.
-Don't trust other people.
-Try to trust untrustworthy people.
-Think God has abandoned them.
-Lose faith and trust in God.
Anger
Many Codependents:
-Feel very scared, hurt, and angry.
-Live with people who are very scared, hurt, and angry.
-Are afraid of their own anger.
-Are frightened of other people's anger.
-Think people will go away if anger enters the picture.
-Feel controlled by other people's anger.
-Repress their angry feelings.
-Think other people make them feel angry.
-Are afraid to make other people feel anger.
-Cry a lot, get depressed, overact, get sick, do mean and nasty things to get even, act hostile, or have violent temper outbursts.
-Punish other people for making the codependents angry.
-Have been shamed for feeling angry.
-Place guilt and shame on themselves for feeling angry.
-Feel increasing amounts of anger, resentment, and bitterness.
-Feel safer with their anger than hurt feelings.
-Wonder if they'll ever not be angry.
Codependents:
-Don't trust themselves.
-Don't trust their feelings.
-Don't trust their decisions.
-Don't trust other people.
-Try to trust untrustworthy people.
-Think God has abandoned them.
-Lose faith and trust in God.
Anger
Many Codependents:
-Feel very scared, hurt, and angry.
-Live with people who are very scared, hurt, and angry.
-Are afraid of their own anger.
-Are frightened of other people's anger.
-Think people will go away if anger enters the picture.
-Feel controlled by other people's anger.
-Repress their angry feelings.
-Think other people make them feel angry.
-Are afraid to make other people feel anger.
-Cry a lot, get depressed, overact, get sick, do mean and nasty things to get even, act hostile, or have violent temper outbursts.
-Punish other people for making the codependents angry.
-Have been shamed for feeling angry.
-Place guilt and shame on themselves for feeling angry.
-Feel increasing amounts of anger, resentment, and bitterness.
-Feel safer with their anger than hurt feelings.
-Wonder if they'll ever not be angry.
grammydebest
today i found 4 of these, in my distant past i could list 22 of these traits.
deleted_user
I have some of these traits.I can't withstand other people's anger and I repress my own most of the time. It leads to depression.
deleted_user
almost all of the lack of trust is me and most of the anger.
deleted_user
I have a lot of these traits and it's becoming unbearable. It's even harder knowing and admitting to it, especially when my partner has all of these traits as well and blames it on me.
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