I can control others.


I don’t know how to assert myself .


Set defense mechanisms instead of boundaries .


Others define my worth or value

I don’t set boundaries because I don’t know how to , I fear rejection abandonment etc also others needs are more important than my own .


I’m responsible for others feelings .


I value others feelings and energy above my own .


I can’t differentiate between guilt and shame .


I’m not in touch with who I am , my values how I feel how to react in my best interests.


I attract emotionally unavailable people in relationships .


I don’t know my rights


I don’t know my needs and wants .


I over react then regret it .


I don’t know what my limits are .


I need validation from others for my feelings and who I am .


I don’t know how to acknowledge my feelings self soothe regulate and act responsibly.


I’m responsible for others feelings actions and emotions and I have power over them .


I have toxic shame for who I am eg my beliefs and feelings about myself are I’m not enough
I need to be perfect I must not have flaws. I’m not attractive etc.


I am unable to communicate clearly and effectively .


I have poor mental boundaries I can’t differentiate between my thoughts values opinions and others .

I can offend others .

I’m a wounded victimised child in need of love validation nurturing protection etc .


I should suppress my anger it’s bad .

I can’t share my own reality or own it il distort it because I was never taught to acknowledge it .

I am resentful from over giving .


This is just a general list I’m sure there’s more behaviours and beliefs to add .

Great list