I'm sure she will, quietmama. Just stick to your guns and do not let her put you down again. If she does, just walk away/hang up/whatever you need to do to end the conversation.

I have reconciled with my daughter and she is now treating me with courtesy and respect. Change can happen, but I believe they need to see a change in us. I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt who said that we teach people how to treat us. I believe that's true.

You deserve honor and respect from your adult child according to the Bible. It is God's way. I like that quote Agrandnother.

thank you ......she is like a total stranger to me. I feel it would be bizarre to talk to her again normally. I know God is able.....i'm not very hopeful i guess, may He help my faith .......its been over 10 yrs............I have never truly stepped out of the picture before. This part is new to her, and to me. I've always been available for the inevitable emergencies of her lifestyle....This time i will not be. We shall see.

Quietmama - your story sounds so much like mine with my ED, and Agrandmother - I love that quote and it's helped me to guide me to where I am now with her. By sticking by my ED, no matter how she treated me, with never any remorse or apology from her, I was, indeed, teaching her how to treat me; that she could get away with any behavior she wanted to throw at me and I'd take it and always be there. Well, I think I must of really shocked her this time because I knew I could not allow her to get away with it any more. She is 37 years old, for crying out loud and I was not doing her or myself any favors by continuing in a relationship with her in this manner. As of today, it's been almost 10 months since I broke all contact with her. And you know what, I'm OK, I'm not always walking on eggshells, wondering when she would call or come over with her next crisis and when the next round of disrespectful behavior would show up. I can't live like that any more. 17 years living away from it on a daily basis showed me what living a peaceful life was like. I've also heard the saying, "don't let others pull you into their drama, instead, pull them into your peace."

I read a quote today attributed to Billy Graham (but I don't know for certain that he said it): "A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone."
I'm not sure that we ever allowed our kids to be disrespectful to us but they were anyhow. It seems to be the culture nowadays and as adults they seem to get away with it since there is now way to discipline them once they leave home.
quietmama, We did the same as you about a year ago. Our ES behaved very disrespectfully to us and we drew a line at that point and said "enough". Most people would leave someone alone who doesn't want to be bothered but our ES is different. He has tried every avenue to get to us, the communication that does get through is rude and scolding of us. In between times though we have peace. It has been much better than answering his calls, texts, emails (all blocked now) with all of his complaints against us. We hoped it would be a quick lesson for him but so far he does not appear to be at all sorry. At least we aren't in a battle royale with him every other day. Blessings.

I like that quote Mountain. So true.