CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
when the only time your ac talk to you is when YOU call or write, when YOU initiate it? I've stopped initiating it and I never hear from one (not estranged but what's the difference when they don't keep in touch?) and I get only a blurp EVERY NOW AND THEN from the rest. So I've just had to accept it and live my life accordingly. Now when I hear from them, I only blurp back because oftentimes they do not reply at all. One ac even got very aggravated with her father because he called so often. She even made the comment that in the "old" days, children when they got married often moved far away and were rarely if ever heard from again. I took great offense at that. And what REALLY frosts my wheaties is that they are constantly posting on FB (which I'm not on) and yet, if i ask them an innocuous (or even important) question, they take DAYS or even weeks to respond! Maybe I expect too much in expecting them to keep in touch?
It certainly seems very common of adult children in this generation to be this way. We can not force it but a little communication would mean so much. If they know the Lord they may act a little better with parents but not always.
My other son, who was estranged for 7 years and now we are trying to work a relationship, is married with a daughter and he tries to skype with me once in awhile, but for now I need to be patient (not my virtue) and hopefully I won't feel so "intruding" if I call him. When we skype, he and granddaughter can talk for 20+ minutes, his wife just comes on for a minute to say "hi".
It is what it is I guess.