It has come to our attention ,very recently, that our ED may be ready to have communication with us after one year of silence, telling lies about us, and believing that we are the parents DH and I) who she has made up fantasy stories (some serious) about . We have note during the past year (have a college address) always expressed that if we did anything wrong or made her feel a certain way that we ask her forgiveness. We, also, said that we are not admitting to any lies and wrongdoing that we did not do.

I need wisdom from Godly women, here. We have been forewarned that she wants to "forgive" us (from the fantasy in her mind) but does not have a repentant heart about the estrangement and what she has done to us and the extended family. My prayer has always been that God would bring reconciliation in His way and in His timig. We will not refuse contact as I do not believe in this case Jesus would. But I have a question. Can there be reconciliation and a relationship moving forward if an EC does not repent and wants to forget and have us brush under the rug, so to speak, all of the damage that they have caused. Could that ever work? Is that God's way?

She has painted herself into a corner with the lies she has told to her bf''s family and probably does not believe she can give up the stories for fear of losing them and their support (financiallyand emotionally). She is our adopted daughter and has always had problems (mentally and emotionally).

Thank you to anyone who is willing to share the way that you believe Jesus would do it. We desire to proceed, with caution, in a Godly way.