CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
I get emails from Dr. Joshua Coleman about series he does. He is doing one today and this is what his message is going to be. I thought I would share as these are good points we need to remember as we heal:
Learning to find serenity while going through an estrangement requires the ability to internalize the following statements or beliefs:
I am still a good person and a good parent even if I don't think about my child
* I am still a good person and a good parent if I put my own happiness before everyone else's
* Putting myself first doesn't mean that I'm putting others last
* There is a big difference between being self-interested and being selfish.
* Since my child is choosing not to spend time with me, it is healthy for me to think about how I want to spend my time
* Putting my child out of my mind is sometimes quite useful for my happiness and serenity
* When I punish myself for the past, I perpetuate the myth that I deserve to suffer
* I have suffered enough and as of today, I choose to feel good about myself as a parent and as a person
Learning to find serenity while going through an estrangement requires the ability to internalize the following statements or beliefs:
I am still a good person and a good parent even if I don't think about my child
* I am still a good person and a good parent if I put my own happiness before everyone else's
* Putting myself first doesn't mean that I'm putting others last
* There is a big difference between being self-interested and being selfish.
* Since my child is choosing not to spend time with me, it is healthy for me to think about how I want to spend my time
* Putting my child out of my mind is sometimes quite useful for my happiness and serenity
* When I punish myself for the past, I perpetuate the myth that I deserve to suffer
* I have suffered enough and as of today, I choose to feel good about myself as a parent and as a person
My self esteem is in the garbage, however I know that God is mending my heart and I only have to believe what God says about me..and He thinks I'm special enough to die for!
We can stay positive by staying in the Word..and reading encouraging words such as these.
God bless everyone here.
Maddie
AllK
My first visit with the new counselor ended with her telling me to have self-talks about what I KNOW to be truths in my life...where I live, my husband's name, the four-legged 'children' that love me and depend on me daily, etc. This runs along the same lines of thinking. Thank you Norske1