I am so sorry soveryssd. I was wondering what had taken place. All I can say is God has a way of changing hearts. This is what your ES may have planned but God is in control. God is able. May He give you His peace.

I am so happy to hear you got to see your son and speak with him. As someone who had an estranged son for 8 years and who is now back in my life, including his wife who hated me, be patient and wait on the Lord. God is in control and he knows what you need, if we wait on Him. Hold onto the moments you had with him yesterday. Any chance you got to take some pictures with your son?

As a side note, my friend who had an ES due to her DIL hating her has taken a wonderful turn. ES was out of town when DIL got sick and was taken to the hospital. My friend went to the hospital and sat with DIL all night until she was stable. Their friendship has grown slowly since then and a week ago she called her MIL to say 'I love you'. Miracles are God's playground.

Amen!

I too am happy you got to see him.....I too have an EVIL DIL who hates me and is trying to get my son to hate me too......it is killing me...and I am trying to make it stop but it is a hard fight.....and I say we fight not against the people of this world but against the DEVIL himself who happens to be living in my DIL at this moment..>LOL.....so I pray and I pray and I pray......for my son .....and for myself.....maybe the military will help your son grow up and be able to stand up to his wife and say I want to see my mom even if you don't like her....someone told me yesterday that my son needed to stand up to his wife on my behalf.....it hasn't happened yet....he only stands up for the wife even though she is wrong and abusive to me......sorry I went on a rant there......um...just keep praying for him....wrtie to him if he will give you the address while he is in bootcamp.....they always like to get letters during that time......I hope it works out

btw what the heck is wrong with these DIL.....I don't get how they think they OWN our sons now.....it makes me so mad.......

That is really great he is going in the military. They have very strict rules and he will come out a changed person believe me. IMO---all young men should have to go in there, they would grow up quickly and learn RESPECT which is what is lacking in these EC. Yes, by all means write to him, good idea from sadmom. Pray that the Lord will send a Christian man in his way....that would influence him a great deal. Hugs.

sadmom......I wonder the same thing about these DIL. THEY are the WIFE... WE are the MOTHER. I don't want to be the wife and she can never be his mother....what about this do they not understand?

Thank you all for the kind notes. He did let me take a picture with him. I will treasure it always.

Bella, you hit the nail on the head. I don't understand DIL's thinking, either. And if you knew me, I am NOT the controlling mother-type at all! In fact, my other DIL says she wishes she could see MORE of me, but I absolutely don't want to interfere, so I am very careful like that. I don't want to be his wife, she can have that role! I just don't understand why she is so threatened by me. It is like she is jealous of me for no good reason.

Praying there will be more to come.

Bella - how old are your DILs? When my DIL was in her early 20's she told my son and me that she had never seen a mother and son so close and we tried to convince her that when they marry she would be No. 1 but she didn't see it that way.

Now that she is 32, she seems to be more confident in her role as my son's wife and can see me as non-interferring. But it took 8 years of estrangement on their part and growing up before she came around.

Norske----we only have one DIL (PTL !) She is 43 yrs old and I doubt will ever change short of a miracle. Mostly her mother influences her so much and her family are jealous of us and have never liked us. She has always been very insecure, I also informed her that she was #1 before me. I told our son that also a long time ago. Nothing ever worked, it was a waste of time.

She is a person that thrives on stirring up trouble with everyone she is around her family do that too. Kind of like a person causing a lot of cars to smash up then stands back just in 'amazement at all the problems, pretending to care'. She is very mentally ill and I have tried in the past to encourage her and help her but with her family influencing her....it is just to no avail. She just chases after her mother for attention, in reality it is very sad.

But she has devoted her life to planting lies in our son's mind about us and then out of no where he would be cold and mad at us....way too much drama and confusion. Just really a situation to let go of and pray she learns to really trust in the Lord and only him for her security.

I am so sorry your DIL is treating you this way. I just prayed for her and will continue to ask God to soften her heart. In the meantime, grab onto every moment you are given with your son.