CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
This week has been rough. It has nothing to do with my daughter. First, I am down an employee and have had to pick up half of her work load. I have been working 14 hour days for a while. I flew to my corp office this week to interview people and missed my flight home. It was the last flight of the night. I found myself stranded at the airport at 8:30 pm. All of the local hotels were sold out. I finally called one of the hotels that showed up as sold out and begged them for a room. They had a room that had a note that the persons flight had been cancelled. (Yeah, I got a room) I didn't get much sleep as the room was next to the elevator and I had the first morning flight out.
Next, my parents were on the shoulder of an interstate and they were hit by a tractor trailer with two trailers. They miraculously were not hurt. Just a sprained neck for my 89 year old mother. No one was hurt in the accident. If you saw the car you would not believe it. After waiting almost a year for this car - - two weeks old - - less than 700 miles, the car was declared "a total loss."
Then last night I found out that my beloved dog of 16 years was in acute kidney failure. I have had this dog since she was 6 weeks old. I was given some pain medication and told to take her home and love her for one more night..... I just got back from putting her down. That will make three dogs that I have lost in six months. (my entire crew were "seniors", 16 was the youngest one)
After going to breakfast this morning we were stopped for a funeral procession. I heard that it may have been one of the victims from the Navy Yard shooting. It does help to put things in perspective. I know I have been blessed beyond belief but I am just tired, exhausted and I don't want to find out how much more I can handle.
Next, my parents were on the shoulder of an interstate and they were hit by a tractor trailer with two trailers. They miraculously were not hurt. Just a sprained neck for my 89 year old mother. No one was hurt in the accident. If you saw the car you would not believe it. After waiting almost a year for this car - - two weeks old - - less than 700 miles, the car was declared "a total loss."
Then last night I found out that my beloved dog of 16 years was in acute kidney failure. I have had this dog since she was 6 weeks old. I was given some pain medication and told to take her home and love her for one more night..... I just got back from putting her down. That will make three dogs that I have lost in six months. (my entire crew were "seniors", 16 was the youngest one)
After going to breakfast this morning we were stopped for a funeral procession. I heard that it may have been one of the victims from the Navy Yard shooting. It does help to put things in perspective. I know I have been blessed beyond belief but I am just tired, exhausted and I don't want to find out how much more I can handle.
I do agree with forgottenmom about being busy. Work for me is tiring but is a blessing. Please try to add one thing to your life (possibly attend a Bible Study). Distraction for the mind is a blessing.
AllK
I, too, think it's good to be busy. Sometimes that's the hardest thing to do is to take care of my responsibilities. I just want to sit down and look at them instead of do them! But, it is much better when I do stay busy with them.
Praying for your parents, that all is well and your Mom has a speedy recovery, 89, God Bless Her, and please take care of you. Think positive, and get 8 hrs of sleep...
~ Been there done that with the airport nightmares flying from California to Boston and back 4 times in one year due to Probate Court issues. That ended my desire to ever fly in a plane again. I would prefer to hike to California in the future if necessary! LOL
~ Praise God for your parents safety in the wreck! But cars are replaceable, your parents aren't. Wouldn't this be a GREAT learning lesson for our EK's if we were able to use your parents experience to teach them a valuable truth - our lives can end at any time.
~ During our married life we have had to put down 2 poodles and 4 cats. The last was 5 years ago and we figured she was about 22. That was the worst! Our cat was "family" by then. I could not go with my DH when he took her to put her down. Bawled my eyes out when that happened because we had just become newly estranged from our son.
~ I too know the feeling of wanting to cry out..."Hey God, I am grateful for what I have, BUT REALLY, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH." I had a pretty rough year once that I will never forget. My sister had a stroke and died on Christmas Day while our son and DIL were visiting from VA. My mother had been in the same hospital my sister was in but on a different floor. Five months later my mom had a stroke on Mother's Day while we were in VA. Rushed home and then she died on my birthday in May. Then our son and DIL became estranged in July of that year. Six months later my brother died on his birthday.
Yes DS, after a series of traumas rest and sleep are a blessing. Shut the doors, go to bed, pull the covers over your head and check out for a while until..... "this too shall pass" has passed!
You need lots of ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) right now!
God Bless,
Mom2Guel
Putting my little dog down was the last proverbial straw so to speak. She had been with me through everything for the last 16 years (including my divorce).
I wanted to share that I was in a store in my funky mood and an upbeat song came on the radio. I found myself tapping my foot and thought clearly music would be good therapy. (at least the right kind of music)
Thanks again everyone.
Music is therapy to my hurting soul also.
Maybe we could start a music thread, and share some songs that have been helping us?
((hugs))
Maddie
And your poor parents.
And losing your beloved pets.
I pray it gets better. You deserve a break!
God Bless,