CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group

Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...

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kathysau 03/02/2014

I was a member of this support group over 4 years ago. God blessed me with reconciliation with my one daughter I was having problems with. Here I am, back again, estranged by both daughters. I live in Louisiana. My oldest daughter lives in Florida. She has been married and divorced 3 times. She now lives with a boyfriend and her 1st husband "rents a room in the house". Her oldest daughter now lives in NYC and communicates with us. Her 19 yo dtr lives with her boyfriend and has disowned my husband and I. My 13 yo GD was removed from the home. Her Dad (who is a Christian and has started a new family) now has custody of her, but poor guy is really having a battle with my daughter. My youngest daughter lives in Texas and I do believe that the biggest problem has been the negative influence he has on my daughter. I can't see my 4 year old grandson, he is being used as a pawn and a means to hurt me and my husband. We were in Texas a few months ago and called to see if we could see him the next day and was told no. Tonight, they are less then 10 miles from my home. They came to town for Mardi Gras.... But we won't see him. Last year I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia which has pain triggered by stress. Now I am depressed and in almost constant pain. I need prayers, love and support. I know I have returned to the right place!

deleted_user 03/02/2014

welcome back,(sorry to say.).you have support here,, huggs

GuelsMom 03/02/2014

I'm sorry you are having to go through this along with the medical problems of FM. I do think that with both ED's, it may be a blessing that they live quite a distance from you. At least you can turn it off a little easier when things get too stressful for you.

For now, you can't do anything about them. The good thing I see is that your 13-year-old GD is now with her Christian dad. Hopefully, it will be a positive environment for her and where she might be exposed to the gospel of salvation in Jesus.

My suggestion to you is to take comfort in reading your Bible and meditation on the Word of God through prayer. Learn how to deal with this dysfunction in a Christian manner and especially to let go of what you cannot change by turning the situation over to Him. You can only change yourself. But, by growing in Christ you can become a positive influence for whenever you do communicate with them.

Will keep you in prayer and know that we are here for you whenever you need to talk.

(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))

lindajoan 03/02/2014

Hi Kathy, I came here two plus years ago after our then 20 year old daughter left home.

Estrangement is hard and affects us all in so many ways, especially physically. It is a blessing to have this group and support one another. I am glad you found us, again. We need the Lord for His strength every day. God bless you.

deleted_user 03/02/2014

kathy....I have not been here that long but I do believe that you have returned to the right place for when you need prayers, love and support because we share the same burdens. It's so good to have friends here that really understand each other. We are not alone and we are Christians together in faith. To God be the glory for He is our strength and comfort in times of trial. It is sad thought that you had to return for the reasons you say though.

The most important thing for you to do is to be at peace with Jesus, at peace with yourself, and then perhaps peace will come to your family.

kathysau 03/02/2014

Thanks for the responses and hugs. I have had a very bad day today and have cried relentlessly. The pain is getting to be more than I can handle. It is making me physically I'll!

DS4me 03/03/2014

Release this problem to the Lord. As difficult as it is there is nothing that you can do to make the situation different than what it is. If there were you would have already done it. Gods will, that is the only thing I pray for now.

My daughter is back after a 28 month estrangement. She has been back now for three plus months. She has an 11 month old and is 20 weeks pregnant. Yesterday is the first time we even spoke about the estrangement. The relationship isn't perfect we are leaning to trust each other again.

Your health is the most important right now. Take care of yourself.

Norske1 03/03/2014

kathy - I'm so sorry for your pain, both physically and in your heart. I am thankful that our one granddaughter in NYC is in communication with you. Cherish that.

You will be in my prayers. We are all storming the gates of Heaven with prayers for our EC.

soverysadmom 03/03/2014

Kathy, you've come back to the right place but I'm so sorry for the reasons you've had to return. I am sorry that you are ill. This estrangement sorrow is new to me and I have never felt such pain. Not only am I praying for that God will soften the heart of my son and his girlfriend, I am praying for all of us.

weepingwillows 03/03/2014

Cast your burden on him for he careth for you. Take time out to love yourself too.

feellinghelpless 03/03/2014

I'm new (2 yrs. in July). It's a tough place to be in. Let yourself grieve, but try and give it to God too. Only He can fix it. Try and concentrate on something else.

kathysau 03/03/2014

I am so in need to have people around me to hold me and understand my sorrow. My husband is a good man, a Christian...., but his response is always that they are adults and can do what they want. He just goes on with life. I can't get passed the pain!

soverysadmom 03/03/2014

Kathy, I totally understand. My husband is hurting but not in the same way I do. He doesn't understand the tears I shed daily. He says he apologized and he's not going to keep begging. I can't get passed the pain either. Prayers.

Norske1 03/03/2014

I also dealt with a husband who just didn't handle the estrangement like I did (I was crying all the time). Similar to your husbands, he seemed to just move on. Someone told me it is because we, as mothers, were attached to these children by the ambilical cord and that makes for a different relationship with our children.

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