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So sorry, but I could not finish my topic....this sight just kept redirecting my typing...
Anyway, when I asked to be reinstated my ED just blew up....she said that it was fine that those other people were on the pages of the children, but that she didn't want me in their lives and no I could not be a friend on their pages. Just a complete rant. I was again hurt by her ugliness.
Well, I shortly thereafter removed my Facebook account. After their attacks back in Feb/Mar 2012, I have really not used it.
I will tell you what is happening with her. Her husband's brother just had a precious baby girl born 2months after my GD. She is beautiful and precious. And the brother and his wife's family are all over Facebook ouhhhing and awinnng about this little baby girl. And there is Absolutely no family making any comments on my GD's or GS's Facebook pages.
I remember before my ED and her husband trashed his family and then her family, everyone was on Facebook writing adoring and happy things. The kind of things social media was designed for. But because they have been so horrible, both families have stayed off. In fact back when they attacked me publically on Facebook with slander, my only ally was my 80+ mother that told them they were liars.
My two sisters and their husbands didn't because they were afraid of what they would say about them.
Needless to say, his family saw what they wrote and his mother actually called me. A very nice and supportive conversation took place. She told me that there was nothing I could have done. That she knew that it was something they just created and did.
Anyway, so my daughter has seen the differences between the interaction on her new baby's fb and that of her brother in law's.
Not only did she tell me about changing her mind about ME, but she told me she had sent friend requests to her Aunt, my sister. My ED defriended both my sister and her husband when he had the audacity to write on my GS's fb page, 'Congrats on your brand new baby sister. Your grandmother Claudia would write to you too, but she has been defriended from your page.'
Within an hour both my sister and her husband had been dumped.
I responded to her email and told her I had just seen it, that I no longer had a Facebook account since I had canceled it, and that I hoped that she and her husband and the children were doing well...then I closed it with a Love, Mom.Ki
The old Claudiajane would re established my fb account, tanked her and sent the friend requests. The new Claudiajane sees it for what it is. She has made NO contact with me since her ugly rant back in June.
I received response to my email, ,sorry, I bothered you.
Anyway, when I asked to be reinstated my ED just blew up....she said that it was fine that those other people were on the pages of the children, but that she didn't want me in their lives and no I could not be a friend on their pages. Just a complete rant. I was again hurt by her ugliness.
Well, I shortly thereafter removed my Facebook account. After their attacks back in Feb/Mar 2012, I have really not used it.
I will tell you what is happening with her. Her husband's brother just had a precious baby girl born 2months after my GD. She is beautiful and precious. And the brother and his wife's family are all over Facebook ouhhhing and awinnng about this little baby girl. And there is Absolutely no family making any comments on my GD's or GS's Facebook pages.
I remember before my ED and her husband trashed his family and then her family, everyone was on Facebook writing adoring and happy things. The kind of things social media was designed for. But because they have been so horrible, both families have stayed off. In fact back when they attacked me publically on Facebook with slander, my only ally was my 80+ mother that told them they were liars.
My two sisters and their husbands didn't because they were afraid of what they would say about them.
Needless to say, his family saw what they wrote and his mother actually called me. A very nice and supportive conversation took place. She told me that there was nothing I could have done. That she knew that it was something they just created and did.
Anyway, so my daughter has seen the differences between the interaction on her new baby's fb and that of her brother in law's.
Not only did she tell me about changing her mind about ME, but she told me she had sent friend requests to her Aunt, my sister. My ED defriended both my sister and her husband when he had the audacity to write on my GS's fb page, 'Congrats on your brand new baby sister. Your grandmother Claudia would write to you too, but she has been defriended from your page.'
Within an hour both my sister and her husband had been dumped.
I responded to her email and told her I had just seen it, that I no longer had a Facebook account since I had canceled it, and that I hoped that she and her husband and the children were doing well...then I closed it with a Love, Mom.Ki
The old Claudiajane would re established my fb account, tanked her and sent the friend requests. The new Claudiajane sees it for what it is. She has made NO contact with me since her ugly rant back in June.
I received response to my email, ,sorry, I bothered you.
MyEDs aunt will not accept a friendship request.
My GC suffer BC of my ED and her husband's rude, intolerant, and judgemental behavior against family members. For some reason she thinks they can act this way and then people will just respond to them.
I don't want to goi to the pit of hell again. And the fact that she has reevaluated is really something.
BC she has totally ignored me. And that is what is.
I told her, I would always respond to any text or email or phone call out of politeness and consideration....that is if it's not in response to a rant.
It is causing all these "kids" to dump their loved ones.
Me included.
It does something to the brain.
My husband feels as though they feel like a celebrity in their own little reality show.
Anyone who tarnishes their red carpet walk is annihilated.
I'm beginning to think he is absolutely correct.
My ED will dump anyone who disagrees with her religious opinions or doesn't give her sympathy for her many illnesses.
So now she has a following of "Oh you poor baby..,"
And"you are such a godly woman..."
I couldn't take it anymore. Cancelled my FB account and never looked back.
These followers make her sicker.