God our sons can be so cruel to those who bore them and cared for them....

gordos....YOU GO GIRL!!! I am so proud of your!

Great job Gordos...

Now I must apologize in advance for sounding a bit mean....

I (me AllK seriously).... will text your son back and say...of course B is fighting your moms battles as you are a disrespectful adult man and someone needs to be a bigger bully than you...so you will know firsthand how this type of behaviour feels ...and now so am I (fighting a battle for her and you dont even know me or what I look like so when I appear to "fight her battles" you will caught totally off guard and unknowing...just as you do to her especially when she is at her weakest with other emotion.

And then I will quote proverbs 13 something at him (sorry cant remember the exact verse)....

These kids have got to learn accountibility somewhere somehow

By the way how is your father doing??? i have thought about your situation a lot.

AllK

LOL Guelsmom & AllKheirlyn!
AllKheirlyn, you don't sound mean at all! I am not going to give him the satisfaction of knowing he got to me. My hubby (who is ES's stepfather BTW), says if he starts up again, he will call ES until he answers & give him a piece of his mind. He wants to tell him to "grow a pair". I know that doesn't sound nice, but that is how my hubby feels.
My dad is still in hospice & getting more confused by the day. He called my husband by my brothers name today. He is now lingering, something he never wanted to do. I pray to God daily to be merciful & take my dad soon. He thinks he's at home again & tells me he wants to get out of there. WHen I try to explain to him why he cant, he gets upset. Its sooo hard to watch. They have him on a high strength pain killer, so I think that is why he acts so combative & confused. We all thought he would die last week, but for some reason, God doesn't want him yet...Thanks for asking about him

I guess I would delete the message and not return a text to your ES. Kids really hate it when they can't get a rise out of us.

I am so sorry about your dad. It is so hard when these EC have no respect or concern for the emotional part of our life that has nothing or little to do with them.

I would strongly suggest to your DH not to call him again. Both of you need to ignore him. IMO. As long as he gets any response, he will respond. His delay is only to show he has power. I would not believe he first heard his message today. That is another "let my mother sweat" moment.

weary, you are probably right. He looooovveeess going long distances in between nasty texts, it gives the illusion of power.

Good 4 U my friend. Nothing is more frustrating to difficult people than being ignored!

gordose It sounds to me like you and your DH are doing the right thing. I don't think Jesus would keep this back and forth going. You are taking the higher road. God bless you.

gordos....I know how hard it is for you with your dad. It sounds like your dad and my mom went through exactly the same thing. She had dementia and could not remember that I had told her that my sister had died 5 minutes after I told her. Then she wanted to know why Barbara was not coming to visit anymore. Due to meds too, she had hallucinations that she had seen my dad and that he had visited her - but he had died 20 years ago. The worst of the worst was when she had a stroke and could not swallow food or water. Those last 5 days were horrible for me to watch. I almost started to believe in euthanasia at that point.

Your dad needs you now. Don't let your son take your time with your dad away from you. He should be more considerate of you now instead of creating more unnecessary drama in your life.

God Bless,
My prayers are with you today,

It is very hard.. so easy to be discouraged and devastated... but you will get through this -- we will get through this.. there is a lot out there for us besides our adult children!

The enemy wants to keep us discouraged and devastated, for sure. He wants us to doubt God and yourselves. Yes, DoverFox and all, He will give us the strength to get through this. We will pass the test with His help. Then, He will help us to thrive not just survive.

Thank you Guelsmom..It is one the hardest things Ive ever had to see.

How is your Dad, gordos4?

It is so sad how our EC treat the elderly? Our ED has not come through and visited her sick 93 year old grandmother (my mother) although the invitation was extended. They will regret it in their soul, one day, I believe.