Do you know why your DH continues to email ES? Any chance you can talk with him and suggest he also block him? Perhaps if ES doesn't hear from either of you, he will wonder why you aren't thinking about him. I know his gf will wonder because girls love drama.

When our ES and DIL swore at us, my DH said that's it - no more communication and to this day he has not tried any connection with ES and gets mad at me if I say let's try one more time.

I am so sorry you are going through this.

Sovery, it seems to me that your ES loves you. He is making certain choices right now which he does not want to hear anything negative about. He will learn in time. He is quite young to be marrying. He may have to learn when the going gets tough that his parents were there for him his whole life. God will have to do it.

It would be best if DH discontinues emailing. He is not asking for advice. The story of the prodigal son comes to mind.

Sovery, please try to convince your DH that he is only making things worse by telling your ES that he should not marry that girl. When our kids become of age to make their own decisions, they also have the right to make their own mistakes too. We look back at our mistakes wishing we could have done things differently but they too have to do the same think if they choose not to listen to what their parents are trying to save them from. You both may know that he is making a huge mistake but, trust me, he will side with her and completely reject you both if he keeps getting negative feedback from his parents about the girl he is determined to marry.

I speak from personal experience on this. When DH and I decided to get married he was a Catholic and I was a Protestant - neither of us practicing at the time. His parents were devout old school Catholics. His mom went to church EVERY DAY. They were totally against my DH marrying a Protestant!!! That, to them was tantamount to a sentence of eternity in hell. Because of their religious beliefs they felt that they had to do what they had to do to keep their son from eternal damnation. His mom went so far as calling my mom and started out with...."Because you are Protestants I am sure that you are just as upset about your daughter marrying a Catholic. What can we do as concerned parents to stop this?" My mom answered her back with, "Well, actually we like your son and are looking forward to the wedding." His mom hung up very upset with my mom.

After that, she tried even harder with her son, my now DH, to get him to change his mind. She even went so far as to threatened not to go to the wedding if he went through with it - and she would have stuck to her guns too. My DH and I talked about it and he emphatically said that he would walk away from his parents if they continued and he was just as determined as they were. What stopped them from continuing their quest was his brother. He told him that his brother meant what he said and that they had better learn how to live with it or else lose him. They chose not to pursue it.

After we were married, they were civil and respectful to me although the never changed their beliefs - even when my DH did convert later on to Protestantism.

So, again, your DH has to realize that they are serious too and will cut you out of their lives if it continues. Sorry if this sounds harsh but I do speak from experience here.

My situation was similar as Guelsmom shares. These sons cling to every word and command their fiances give them. And the more your DH questions ES, the worse it will be. Been there. Tried to help my son see the light but he was blinded by love (and sex).

If you still have some communication with ES and your husband stops the emails, ES might reconsider. You will all be in my prayers.