CHRISTIAN PARENTS of ESTRANGED ADULT CHILDREN Community Group
Estrangement makes it difficult to talk about with family, friends, neighbors and church members. Christians are NOT immune to broken families. Talk about your experiences with those who know how you feel and get positive support through your Christian faith...."In these last days difficult times will come, for men will be lovers of self...disobedient to parents,...
I am a mom of a serial estranger, my oldest son. I had been on DS in the past but dropped out. My son was estranged from his family due to his marriage. We got along great with his wife in fact they had dated for 10 years before marrying. When it came time for the wedding...well she turned into a bridezilla. It's a long story. We were estranged for a total of four years with one year in between of contact.when my husband had a heart attack.At first like I'm sure as many of you experienced I prayed for him to return. Then I prayed that God would just let me die. I knew He wouldn't be too pleased with suicide. I prayed and cried everyday. Somedays I prayed for them to give their lives to Christ. Other days I prayed that my son would someday know what he put me through. Suffice it to say, I was a mess. However, estrangement brought me closer to Jesus. Jesus is ultimately all I have and He is more than I will ever need, In the beginning of May I said a novena Mary undoer of knots. Finally after all these years I came to terms with my situation it is what it is as young people say.
The Thursday after mothers day, there was a knock on our front door. My husband answered, it was our son.
He is now divorced. His wife cheated on him not with one person but many and this had gone on for years. He found out in Jan. The weird thing is in Jan I became totally obsessed with him. I sent him an email which I had quit doing for almost two years as reaching out became so fruitless and humiliating. He didn't reply.
Anyway, he said he was sorry and wants to forget the past. I really couldn't talk when he came and sat there and cried most of the time. My husband later said I acted like it was Jesus's second coming. Things aren't perfect the rest of my family has hard feelings towards him. I have forgiven him. I am sorry for the pain he is experiencing. For me I now cry tears of gratitude to have my baby back in my life (although he's 32) . I don't know what the future holds and there's a lot of work we as a family have to do. But I pray we will progress.
I am sharing this to let you know that things can change.. I certainly am no better than anyone and didn't deserve the grace God has given to me.
I hope you will accept me in your group. Things a certainly better but, I am walking on shaky ground
The Thursday after mothers day, there was a knock on our front door. My husband answered, it was our son.
He is now divorced. His wife cheated on him not with one person but many and this had gone on for years. He found out in Jan. The weird thing is in Jan I became totally obsessed with him. I sent him an email which I had quit doing for almost two years as reaching out became so fruitless and humiliating. He didn't reply.
Anyway, he said he was sorry and wants to forget the past. I really couldn't talk when he came and sat there and cried most of the time. My husband later said I acted like it was Jesus's second coming. Things aren't perfect the rest of my family has hard feelings towards him. I have forgiven him. I am sorry for the pain he is experiencing. For me I now cry tears of gratitude to have my baby back in my life (although he's 32) . I don't know what the future holds and there's a lot of work we as a family have to do. But I pray we will progress.
I am sharing this to let you know that things can change.. I certainly am no better than anyone and didn't deserve the grace God has given to me.
I hope you will accept me in your group. Things a certainly better but, I am walking on shaky ground
Your son has been through a lot. I am sorry to hear of the divorce. Are there children?
It is good that your son knew he could return back to you and DH. That is encouraging to many of us here I'm sure. The truth seems to be that our EC know we love them but are being held back by other people. As parents we forgive our EC but I have found that other family members are not as willing. That is a matter of prayer. God bless you and please keep us updated.
As you, I continue to pray. I live my life with friends, enjoy my other son and look forward to the times my es now spends with me.
Keep everyone in your prayers and keep trusting God like you're doing.
My daughter was emailing me...very controlling in how she communicates, and she waits a month inbetween...now its been 2 months, because I spoke up and asked why this control? Why can she not call me on the phone...she has been doing this for the last 8 months. I call my responses into her cell phone, because I refuse to be controlled. She writes me as if she is my parent. It is so disrespectful. I don't think participating in this control is heathy and am praying as to whether I should stop responding until she can pick up a phone.
I am just glad my son stepped away from her control as well as his wife's control. God does answer prayer and I have to remember to give it up. Like you okaynow, I have grown much closer in my walk. I don't pine after my daughter and feel desperate as I once did. I do have concerns about the church she attends and who the influencer is in her life, but again, I must give it up to God...hard at times, but I know He sees it all and knows my heart. God hears us!!