Thank you for sharing.

Wow....someone has been taking notes about my own life and that of my abusive/jealous sister. I honestly believe she hated me the date my parents brought me home from the hospital and I took her place as the youngest daughter.

It would take a book to write all of the mean, underhanded things she's done to me through the years. Although I've not had any kind of relationship with her for 42 years (since I was 17 years old) she has always been lurking in the shadows of my life, as I go along minding my own business. Just like this writer described, since I had no real contact with my older sister, when I gave birth to my second daughter, when my sister found out what I had named her, she replied, "but I was going to name my baby that!". I was so puzzled by her reaction - like, "she never told me that.". She recently turned 64 and never had children.

Other underhanded things she did to me were:

She conspired with our other oldest sister, who did live near me, who was my matron of honor, to show up at my wedding wearing the same color dress as mine, and in all of the wedding photos, this other sister, never smiled, but purposely pouted in every one of them. When we had a small reception back at our home, this sister went back to change our of her dress (so she could return it) and put on the most ugly sweater she owned and came back to the house wearing it, so that is what the photos show. This sister also gave me as a wedding gift, some beat up old glass platter (from her coveted collection so she said), with scratches in the glass n' all.

Then the middle sister, (the jealous one) spread a rumor in the family that I married my husband for his money! My husband laughed at that one and said, "what money?". Thing is, she did marry and stay married for money - she is in a loveless marriage of over 30 years due to the amazing wealth of her husband and the lifestyle she's accustomed to. So she totally deflected her own feelings on to me.

The latest thing this sister did, was refuse my offer to take care of our aging mother, but instead two weeks before she died, she shipped my mother off, by ambulance, to the oldest sister (whom she has since fallen out with). She drained our mother's bank account dry and when my Mom was almost out of money, she sent my mother away where she died in a strange state in a strange nursing home - out of spite to her other two sisters.

As far as my mother's will goes - my sister usurped my Mother's will, by passed my Mother's attorney and has since dispersed any inheritance I may have received, as she sees fit - even to relatives not in my Mother's will.

The last thing this sister has done, is, when my mother died, she co-opted my youngest daughter and turned her against me (the one she said had the name she wanted to name her baby). This sister has never had anything to do with my daughters, but now that my sister is alone because she has alienated everyone, she went after my oldest sister's daughter (my niece) to try and turn her against her mother, but this niece saw right through her, and she moved onto my daughters. The trouble began with my youngest daughter after she connected with this evil sister when our mother died.

42 years later and this evil sister is STILL conniving behind my back and has disrupted my relationships with my own children and grandchildren.

I'm sick about it.

MG

P.S. I always said that the day my Mother died, my sister could not hurt me anymore. I even told my mother, about two years before she passed away, to please remove me from her will because I did not want to ever have to deal with this sister again, in any way. That any inheritance my Mother left me, was not worth my peace of mind, but I was wrong - my daughter allowed this evil sister into her life and turned her against me, which affected my oldest daughter and all of my grandchildren.

yes mountain girl, i have suffered a life time of pain from my cunning manipulative sister also. I'm so sick of them all now. All i tried to do was be the best person i could, and because i was successful and my sister lost everything to her gambler husband she came after me with daggers and turned my son against me and enabled his hostility all the while saying she was a christian. i confronted her i told her Christ is the light and the TRUTH and for you to enable my son to lie and "slander", which means "devil btw. you are not behaving anything Christlike. She has done so much damage, i'm still hearing half truths and lies from her through my son, to my daughter. I'm done with them all. as the saying goes my family doesn't suffer from mental illness, they rather seem to "enjoy" it.

It seems like everything started to unravel in our families as we grew older,the sickness my dh and i have endured since 2009 untilnow i can honestly say we have gone threw and took care of each other by ourselves.But now my older sister seems to think i should push all the hurt aside and act as though nothings is wrong,nothing happened,but in reality dh and myself have done things alone for so long i just want to be left alone,hope that doesnt sound selfish,we do things ourselves or do without.No one was concerned when dh was in hosp in may for 3 days could not walk,no onetook time to come and see him,and the same for me,but its ok we made it,and forgive things my family did and didnt do,and i love them but i dont forget,i just recently started to call 2 of my sisters when i want,but i do contact them,one is in a assisted living with als and sent her achristmas box i speak with her.But my older sister tries to make me feel guilty,and i haveenough to deal with instead of feeling worse than i do.

It makes things so much harder when you are kind and tender-hearted. I honestly don't understand how people that were suppose to love you can be so cruel. I've always related to "Joseph" from the Bible whose siblings threw him a pit and walked away. We are in good company with Joseph and I thank God for making sure his story was recorded for all us "Josephs" out there.

Glamma, WOW,WOW!!!!! Thank you for sharing this awesome article...Ii explains some of the things that has caused me pain....still reading be back later to comment more in depth ...this is water on the dry parched land of my life...jealousy is as cruel as the grave.