Lindajoan, Thank you so much for your message to us. This being our first Christmas without ES and GC, we simply are not looking forward to this day. Christmas Eve midnight service is always so special and that will be our celebration. The people here have been so supportive and care. I just know that guidance and seeing how other people are dealing with estrangement is so important. We really do need people who have walked the path ahead of us. God bless each and every one of you. Prayer and faith is so important. I don't have any answers but do appreciate information and help.

I have probably not been on as much since my DH passed away. When he was first diagnosed with cancer, I think I posted that our ES and his family came back into the family, albeit very carefully. ES and I spent the day together last Saturday and I was careful not to give my opinions on anything, but just said he needed to follow his heart.

I will continue to share how things are going. I agree with lindajoan that we have become sisters, family. I hope to continue to pray for all of us and hope everyone stays and shares their stories, good and bad.

God has blessed us with a wonderful place to share our Christian faith with the ups and downs of living with adult children.

Someone posted this on a widow site and it sort of applies to us here too:

“I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33 (NLT)

Whyonly, It is so difficult to go through special times without our EC. You are so right. I do not know how we would be able to go on without the Lord. We put our complete faith in Him and what He is able to do. God bless you.

Norske, I am so glad to hear that you spent time with your son. Will he come over for the holidays? Please keep us posted. I needed to hear that verse tonight.

We keep each other in our prayers.

He says he is coming on Christmas Eve, but, of course, his wife will make the final decision. I continue to, each time I think of either of my sons, is to thank God for blessing me with them and ask God to bless them and my ES's family.

I'll let you know if he comes as promised.

God knew there were times when we would need lifting up, and I'm so grateful that we can each come here to support and love on one another… We do share a sisterhood <3

"But Moses’ hands grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it, while Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side. So his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. Exodus 17:12

I do hope those who leave will stop by every so often with updates and share any praise reports. Praises are so encouraging!

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Romans 12:15

You speak such truth, Kate'sMom, I really appreciated the verse Rom. 12:15. God bless you.

I guess dupport groups usually have people with the same troubles at that time. Life is change so, those who have reconciled would probably find a group for reconciled situations? Then whether things are good or bad move to fit a support group with people who can relate at that time. That would be the main idea of a support group, to be in similar situations. However, it is also nice to occasionally hear that reconciliation is possible so, it is nice to have good input to give us hope. But, we could find that we have no compatability as we did before? Some could be back here again or not.

I appreciate this group so much and I know I could not have endured this very painful experience without God first and all of you. I can't thank you enough for your love and support. Blessings to you all.

I don't know what I would do if I didn't have this group. I asked God to give me something to help and I found this group!! I'm not sure why others have chosen to leave, but I'm not going anywhere yet! I get some peace and lots of support and love from y'all!! Prayers work and I feel them sometimes. I need to vent, cry and know there are others like me. I didn't know until I found this group, I thought I was one of a few. It's not a good thing but I am glad there are others who share and understand what I am going through and I understand what they are going through. I would love to meet in person some day! Keep praying and we'll get there. God wants us to be in each others lives.

Thank you, Barbell. We are blessed that you are here. We are thankful for all the caring sisters on here who support one another.