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Give them their space. This is a hard and trecherous road we travel upon & your daughters over to the Lord. Lay them at His feet every morning & every nite. It is the only thing you can do & pray might be slow but the results are worth the wait. I have been waiting 14 years for my youngest daughter & although it is hard because I was all alone at least you have your husband mine was the problem but God is always in control Kathy there is a reason why this happening to you and although "He never give us more than we can bear" is not Bibical "I will never leave you or forsake you" is

I believe it's spiritual warfare. Satan loves to pray on the week and have families destroyed. I don't have 14 years to wait. I am 64 and not in very good health. I don't know at this point if seeing them again would be worth the attitudes, smart comments, etc would be in my best interest.

kathy - only God knows how much time you have; He knows your health issues. You need to trust Him and as martha2014 said, God will not forsake you.

Right now concentrate on feeling healthier. Pray with your DH for these girls. God will hear you, but remember, it is in "His" timing, not ours.

Lifting you up in prayer right now.

I agree with everyone that has answered you back. I am in this with you, I haven't heard from my daughter since New Years Eve. I have no contact what so ever, my emails are blocked, my phone is blocked. If I create another email account I still don't get a reply. My husband just had a motorcycle accident, and I have tried to reach my daughter, but I guess she just doesn't care. I continue to pray consistently. I know God is listening and he gives me enough grace to make it thru the day, and then I start all over the next day. I blame my son in law, he is extremely jealous, and destroyed everything my daughter loved. My daughter is blind to it. Or is she?May the peace of God be with you. Love to all.

I'm so sorry for your situation and pain. It's these kind of cold-hardened hearts that really choke me up when I read them. Our hurt is all so deep. It reminds me of the time when the one and only time I called my DIL begging her to talk to our son and to help us resolve this so that we could be a family again. But nothing! You cannot get more bitter and spiteful than refuse to resolve your differences with another Christian who is seeking peace. But, just as God will deal with her in His own timing, so will He do what is best for you and for your EDs. Sometimes we do not understand why God is not answering our prayers for resolution, but perhaps it may even be in your best interest at this time for them to remain away from you while you recover. If they are as cold and indifferent as they seem, being around them when you are recovering from a physical illness may not be the best thing for your recovery even though it does send a message that no parent ever wants to deal with - silence during a major crisis is not so silent at all.

Ideas you ask? Are they in your will?

kathysau, I hope you are feeling better. I am sorry that your received such poor treatment from your EDs. Silence is poor treatment.

You mentioned that your EDs live a distance away. Our ED (for 2 years) lives about 10 minutes away. She has surrounded herself with enablers who believe her "stories". Whether our EC live close or far, we can not change their hearts ONLY GOD can. The most we can do is pray for our prodigals. If you went right to their homes, as you mentioned doing, it would not change them if God has not first changed their hearts. The prodigal father waited. The most we can do is pray.

kathy--I am so sorry--that's something I can't understand. It's just so sad. So far, we have left our ED and SIL alone. I don't think they would come to the door if we went. The answer I have is to pray. Are you feeling better?

kathy, I pray you will feel better. That is sad that your daughters didn't respond. It is just cruel and we don't deserve it. I wish I had a suggestion. All I can do is pray. I just don't want to believe what I read on the posts here and how much the enemy is trying to destroy us. My husband has been seriously sick and I'm on medical treatment for heart issues since this estrangement started, plus dealing with depression, nightmares and more. When I tried to tell my es, he and his gf tell me that my "playing my sick card" is not going to make them feel guilty and they are still not seeing us. After what I've been through with my children this weekend, it may be wrong of me but I told my husband, if I am sick or die, don't call any of the kids. I don't want them or my stepkids crying for a show at church. Also autumnwind, I pray your husband will be ok/ Prayers for all of you here.

soverysadmom - I agree with you 100%. My husband, son and sister all know that if I am at death's door, they are not to call my ES and when I pass, they also are not allowed to inform him when the celebration of life will be. Oh, and he has also been written out of the will, if there is any $$ left when we pass.

If our ED does not have a change of heart (given by God) we will not inform her when her grandmother (my mother enters eternity. She has been given invitation after invitation to see her in the past two years. She has chosen not to come. BTW, this happens to be the person our ED says she loves. Actions do speak louder than words.

Our ED is also out of our will. We can not reward a child that dishonors their parents.

Not feeling much better. I am very weak and sleep most the time. I know I am weak from the hospitalization, depressed and all the stress has kicked my Fibromyalgia in high gear. I only work 2days a week, didn't work last week, don't get paid if I don't work and don't know if I can work this week. I am applied for disability, but no word yet. This is so hard to feel this bad without my kids. I am an only child, my parents are deceased and all I have are my husband, kids and grand kids. Thank God for my husband and oldest grand daughter. Right now I just need prayers to get well soon. Thanks to each of you for your responses, concern, prayers and love. Everyone of you are in my prayers also.

I will be praying for you. Hope you get well soon.

I, too, am an only child. With one ED. I have no cousins. We just moved 2000 miles away from all the drama to be closer to my husband's nieces and nephews. I understand loneliness. I also understand rejection.. It hurts so bad one thinks they will die and we probably will if we let it consume us.

You have a husband to live for. I, too, am 64. I have been semi-estranged for 28 years. I told my ED about this move that I do not have another 28 years to sit on the side line and not be included in any family holidays or celebrations but just to be allowed to see my grandson for 2-3 weeks a year. I can see my GS for that amount of time from any place in the world.

As hard as it is, be resolved to live. Lean on the Lord. Rest when you need to. Take care of yourself.

I, too, have changed my will. I watched my mom grieve for 4 years before she died. She kept asking me to tell ED to come visit. ED never would. My mom died very very miserable and lonely. I had my GS at my house when she passed. I think she was holding on to see if ED would come to visit her. ED couldn't make the 405 hour trip to visit. We had to take GS make to her after my mom passed. Her husband and her would not even come to pick GS up.

I don't want to die that way and I have resolved not to wait a single day for her any longer. If she has an epiphany , that is wonderful. But I cannot bank on it any longer. She is a very cold, hardened person toward me and my DH. It is sad but factual.

wearyofitall - I applaud for moving closer to your DH's family. My DH and I also moved away and found it fun to meet new people, new neighbors, new beginning. I do have family and another child who area close so they visit periodically and there is email, text, face time, etc. to keep us connected.