I can't imagine how painful it must be to not know your son's whereabouts or if he is alive and well. I also have terrible nightmares, from PTSD, and I have been having them every night since I told my ES I don't want to have a relationship with him anymore. I am so sorry you had this terrible nightmare, I know how upsetting that can be, and plus it isn't exactly restful!! I am praying that your brain will calm down, and give you some nightmare-free rest tonight. I hope and pray that your son is doing well. I don't think we can ever give up our mother's hearts. We are wired to want our children to be healthy and happy. To not know one way or the other would be agony, I would think. I will be praying for you, and for your ES.

I am so sorry you had such a horrible nightmare. I have not had any nightmares about my ES, thank goodness. I have had several DREAMS, however. In each dream my son comes home, and in the dream I know we are estranged, and he seems to know it, too, but he still seems like the old son I used to know. He interacts with his siblings and with us, and we hug and laugh, and it is so wonderful. And then I wake up, and realize it was only a dream, and THAT is the nightmare for me...to realize we are still estranged. I hope you find peace.

Praying for you to have better dreams and sleep. How horrible our dreams can be and yours certainly was terrible. My heart goes out to you. Funny but last night I had a nightmare about our ES too. It wasn't violent like yours just that he and his GF were making our lives a living hell. That's not far from the truth. When I get through a day without thinking of him and the GC, I have a night mare. So I guess one way or the other things have to get out of us and unfortunately it can be an alarming nightmare. I pray that things are better for you. Hugs and prayers

I am sorry you had this sad experience. We want to do something to help our EC but the truth is only God can do it. We can pray for them to come back to God and family. Sometimes they have to reach a low point on the journey. I know our ED does.

I pray you will have the peace of God and get the rest you need.

gordos - every once in a while I have a vivid nightmare like this too. I know it is so disturbing, very scary. I just plead the Blood of Jesus for days. May the Lord give you His peace and peace of mind. God bless

I'm new here but feel I had to comment. Because I too have had those kinds of vivid dreams.

My ED left on her 18th birthday four months ago She had been planning it for many many weeks, it turns out and had pulled a lot of strings and arranged a lot of things to do so and we were totally blind to it. She moved in four months ago with a young man she will not let us meet although we know who he is (he works with her)

I have had some very prophetic dreams and I know this can run "weird "when you're a believer, but I believe dreams can come from the Lord...from the enemy and from ourselves. I am not a psychic - I do not believe in psychic powers; they are a tool of the enemy, but I do believe that God can speak to our spirit while we sleep.

About eight weeks before DD left - and I had no idea she was leaving, I dreamed she was in a car accident and that she had passed away. And I had no idea where she was spending eternity. I woke up panicked but relieved - at that time she was still home. I got up that morning and when I saw her in the kitchen I put my arms around her and said "Please be careful driving..."

I thought it was just the worried dream of a mom of a young driver.

But now i know that was a prophetic dream. I do not know where my daughter is - emotionally, mentally nor physically or spiritually. She's just "gone".

She won't let us be part of her life - she has cut us all off. It hurts so much. She came back for Thanksgiving and Christmas and brought presents but since then no contact. All contact has been amiable but she just doesn't "care". She doesn't have any desire for us to be part of her life. she doesn't "care" how hurt her grandma, aunt, uncle, her dad and I and siblings are. Her father and I have told her how much we love her as has her grandmother but she just doesn't seem to have a "need" to have a family - at least not our family.

Anyway, that is neither here nor there because I am thinking of your dream.

I now realize that it was not a literal car wreck I dreamed about - it was a prophetic dream that I would not know where my child was. And I don't. I never in a million years thought she would do THIS.

I have had other dreams about her since she left - dreams that she is sorrowful and sad. Dreams that I am holding her while she cries. Dreams that she is regretful. I don't see that with my eyes, but maybe I can feel it in my heart and maybe someday it will "be".

God has begun to gift me with some dream interpretation. I believe the man with the gun is the enemy (of course). You and your son were hiding together behind a table - the table in the Bible is often remembered as the Lord's table. It could be that you were putting the blood of Jesus between you and the enemy. But your son went out from behind that covering and was attempting to wrestle the enemy and got hurt. He was doing it of his own strength though. And we cannot fight the enemy in our own strength.
It says to me that your DS is fighting a battle in the spirit realm but not relying on the Lord to fight it and he is injured.

I don't think it is "prophetic" dream literally but maybe just the Lord giving you insight. I don't think the Lord gives us bad dreams in order to frighten us but to know how to pray.

Months ago when she was still in the house, I dreamed a faceless figure in black was at my living room window and shot through the window at my younger daughter. In my dream my family was completely helpless to fight this man.
I woke up terrified and immobilized. I realized i could either lie in bed or I could take care of this thing.

I went out in the living room and prayed spiritual warfare prayers, praying the blood of Jesus over the whole house, room and my family. I commanded any evil presence to go to the feet of Jesus in His name. After about 10 minutes I stopped shaking and there was peace that fell in the room and house.

Keep praying for your ES -- I will lift him up in prayer too and will ask the Lord to give you a dream of hope for him.

Talith, Welcome here. I am sorry you are going through this with your young daughter. It does seem encouraging that she came for the holidays. The enemy wants our ESs and EDs. He always wants to destroy. We must surely pray against him.

God bless you.

Talith, I would love to compare dreams sometime. I have had many spiritual dreams & if I dream the same thing more than 3 times, it comes true. I can taste, read, feel pain & fly in my dreams. I esp. love the flying dreams. I don't believe in mediums or psychics either, but believe a lot of my dreams come from God. The nightmare I had about ES, came from the evil one.

Thank you all for your support. Those kinds of dreams just knock me off my feet.

I do believe in prophetic dreams. Three years ago stuff was going on in our church. And nobody was doing anything about it.
I had a vivid dream one night that I was at a deck party with everyone from church. The sky became so dark it was hard to see - I was going from person to person trying to get them to listen to me to get inside - it was going to storm, especially the youth group which was out on the lawn. Our main pastor just stood and stared at the sky. I grabbed my daughter (oddly ED) and brought her inside just as lightning struck and a tree fell on the deck and everone on it.
I knew when I woke up that something terrible was about to happen and that we needed to find another church to protect our family from the fallout of what was coming.

Turns out the youth pastor was slowly trying to take over the church - he was also teaching the children very very wrong things and eventaully it came out that he was having affairs, etc and finally he was asked to leave, but not before he nearly took over the whole church and had them all in his "pocket" So many went through disillusionment and pain from that. I am so thankful that we weren't there.

So yes, dreams can come from the Lord to help us with discernment or something coming in the future.
I am very happily settled in a new church now and it happened right before DD left....so I see how God positioned us to be in this new place for prayer and support. They are very serious about spiritual warfare and I know He was handing us the weapons to fight this in the spirit realm.
I told DH....it may not happen even in our lifetimes, but I believe she will come back to the Lord. She must - he has her in His hands. She knows the truth. And I pray He will not leave her alone until she does.

Wow Talith, that is quite something to happen at a church. Just goes to prove what Paul said in his letters: Be careful of false prophets and teachers. I have been having these dreams since I was a small child. God took my sister to heaven when she was a baby so she could be my guardian angel. She came to me in a dream when I was young & told me that. It was one of the most incredible dreams Ive ever had. My childhood was very bad, & God knew I would need help. I pray to my ES's guardian angel to watch over him.